Overwhelmed first time home buyer
Hi, last year we bought the home we have been renting for the last 10 years. Now that we own it, I CANT stop obsessing over how much needs done and updated. Dont get me wrong, I love our home and it has always felt like home but everywhere I look, there’s things I want/need to do and everything is SO expensive or time consuming! I got a quote just to knock out a kitchen wall to open it up a little and since it’s a load bearing wall, that alone is $17,000! We really need new siding and that’s another $15000 not including downspout,etc. We are already at our max for the mortgage payment so I don’t understand how anyone affords this kind of thing. I don’t believe in making payments on everything either and that’s what they always try to get you to do. Either way, I know we can’t get everything done right away but I guess what I’m asking is how do I not obsess over everything that needs done?! I bring myself to tears and it’s all I can thing about sometimes and I just want to be able to enjoy our home and the things we’ve done to it already instead of obsessing but I feel like I’ve gotten stuck in this and can’t get out! Is this normal and has anyone else been through this and doing better with it? Thanks!