34F dating 33M; how deep are preferences?
Okay this is more for my black women dating black men because I need some help 😭. But really this can apply to different races.
My bf and I were playing a dating game and one of the questions was who our celebrity crushes are. I said “I don’t have a celebrity crush so I will start naming some run of the mill men”. Mind you, I’m not lying, I really don’t have a celebrity crush and I haven’t since maybe I was a teenager? Anyways he started naming some white women and I said “okay I am starting to sense a theme here.. “. This has been eating away at me and I’ve heard him mention liking music by Sabrina carpenter and Taylor swift. In my mind there is no way that’s why he likes them.
So I let my curiosity get the best of me ( which if you are in a relationship, I wouldn’t suggest this) but I went and saw who he was following on Instagram. And let’s say I wasn’t surprised to see that the women he was following were mostly white and Asian women. You know, those lustful profiles with pictures of boobs and butts and what not.
Again, I am a black woman and compared to these other women… I just want to know why he is with me? Because I look NOTHING like what his preference seems to be.
I want to hear from men and women please. I need honesty because I’m comparing myself and it’s making me depressed. I know people may ask if I love myself and I do, it’s not that I don’t like my image. It’s more of will he end of leaving me for a white woman?