r/relationship_thoughts

Hi my bf m30 told me the other day that he is taking his time to move out because of his mom. He says no one helps her & he’s the only one who does things with her. She has a husband and 4 other sons. We use to go on dates with his parents every weekend till i told him i miss that one on one time with him sometimes since he works so much and i only see him on weekends. He said that’s her time to go out too since she’s always stuck babysitting her grand kid and her husband rarely takes her out he just sits on his phone. They go grocery shopping together and when something is needed around the house he’ll go with her and most likely pay for it. Im f27 concerned about where i fit in his future since he does all the house things with his mom already and if he doesn’t who will? I just don’t know how i fit in his life i know he wants his own family and marriage one day but i just don’t know how if he’s always gonna be looking out for his mom. He even plans out what they do for their anniversary every year and takes the parents out he even mentioned once that hai dad is weird and gets jealous sometimes im general Any advice?

Hi everyone… this is a continuation of my previous post. In my life, I’ve only ever been in one serious relationship which is the one I’m in now. We’ve been together for a little over a year and half and for the longest time I thought I wanted a partner, happy life, live together. But the more this goes on the more I start to think if this is truly the life I want right now. I love my boyfriend and I don’t want to lose him but I also feel like we both need our own space to figure out what makes us happy. I’m not talking about sleeping around, no. I’m talking about trying new things, going on adventures and seeing what I do like and find out alone the way what I don’t like. Idk myself rn idk what I like or what to do and I feel so isolated from my friends. Again I love my boyfriend there’s nothing wrong with him but I just want to try living on my own, cooking my own food, going for a drive bc I feel like it. For a little more context we moved out recently together to roommate with his cousin and her wife. When we were getting everything together, she offered to cook for us and we just all split groceries and while I do appreciate that, sometimes I feel weird. I’m a grown man I want to learn to cook even if I do mess up and have to get McDonald’s instead but my bf doesn’t see that.. idk we just don’t feel on the same page..

I need you so bad and I miss you so much. Please just pet my head...or insult me. I want it all until my head tells me you're horrible.

God how I supposed to go on

I’ve been on and off with this girl since February and we have great times, she cut me off in may and I hit her back up at the end of June and we’ve been talking ever since. When we are talking she always asks me to hang out and shows clear signs of interests, we spend nights texting and she sends me TikTok’s. Most of the time she initiates the conversation and asks to hang out with me. Yesterday we got off a 3 hour call and everything was normal,yesterday morning she texted me like usual sending videos to me then 20 mins after I sent her a TikTok she hearted it and then blocked me on everything.
she doesn’t have me blocked on IMessage but that’s it, I sent her a text asking to talk like 5 hours after she blocked me already and she hasn’t responded.
What should I do?
She gave zero explanation so I’m a little confused

Just like the title states, I 47F have been separated for 2 years. I haven’t had time to go back home to file for divorce. I live in a different continent to my home and my soon to be ex. I have no plans or any inkling for reconnection of any kind. We have grown up kids the youngest is 14. We don’t even speak to each other. I have the kids and he is the parent that claims all the children’s achievements without any input of any kind. I want to date but am not sure if people would want to date someone who is separated. Any thoughts?

When we don't yet know why the other person is upset, defending ourselves only leads to internal anger and silence from the other person, as they gradually come to the conclusion that raising the issue is pointless. And my partner is ready to defend herself.

Is it normal to feel that you need individuality when you are in a relationship?

I have a bf [28M]we’ve been on and off and at first everything is well however, the same issues when it comes to “boundaries” occurs. I just feel like I needed space or a bit of independence or individuality while on relationship but my bf would always like to be “included “ on everything that I do. And would always take my silence or need of space making it always about him and our relationship but all I ever wanted is a but of peace or quite and not having to explain my self all the time. He is aware that I do have “episodes” in my life that I wanted some space and it is not related to him or our relationship. He also knows that most of the time I like to do things independently but he always kinda of like “butt in” on my plans for myself.

Any advice?

How do I end a relationship where I’ve been nothing but the problem? My partner though has some flaws, he basically is flawless when it comes to relationship. For a little context, I’m the younger one and growing up I thought being in a relationship would bring happiness/ solve my problems. (Idk American dream maybe) but we’ve been together for a year and a half and I do love him, he’s perfect and I know he’s the one I want to be with but I just don’t feel like I can be in a relationship right now. I don’t know what makes me happy and I don’t know what makes him happy and I don’t think he does either. I feel like I’m in a terrible situation bc we recently moved out together with some of his cousins as roommates and blames me for the move saying he’s only here for me which I don’t think is fair to him or I. I feel like we both obviously want different things in life rn which is okay I just don’t know how to communicate with him. I’m going to be honest I’ve been a shit partner and he’s giving me more chances than I should. I never cheated but we’ve gotten into physical arguments a lot and all of them my fault. I’m changing and trying to be different I hate the person I was but I also have to accept that it was or maybe is a part of me I have to learn to live with and control. But bc of my past though now I’ve changed and handle things differently, he’s still stuck on that idea of me so whenever we have a conversation I feel like he’s already on defensive mode… idk what to do.

Need opinions: I (P1) fully support our household financially, while P2 (my boyfriend) is unemployed. While P3 (his ex) was in prison, P2 constantly talked to P3—saying they were soulmates, loved each other, were sexy, and that P2 needed P3 out to "get his mind right."
Now P3 is out, and boundaries keep getting crossed. P2 literally called P3 "babe" right in front of my face. When I got upset, P2 threatened to "snap," called me insecure, and claims he did nothing wrong.
Am I crazy for being heartbroken and angry after pouring all my money and love into this? Tl:dr

A little backstory me and my bf was talking from nov 2025 till feb 2026 and we had a fall out but reconnected in july, things were going great imo, we were communicating, hanging out really often but yesterday i thought we were just having a normal conversation but it felt off, i asked him what i did wrong he js dimissed it like he was teasing me, i get really worried then i said hes regressing because it was how we used to teased each other before. I know it is so so wrong and i hold all accountability for it. I apologized immediatly several times, but he is really hurt. he said he is going through a lot and he try not to show it and i feel awful, i can't even imagine how hurt he felt, all i want to do is be there for him but idk what to do, hes not replying no calls no nothing. I'm scared i dont want to contact him either in order to give him space but i really really want to explain myself i js dont know if that's the move. it didn't crossed my mind that he was not in the right state atm and i would do anything to fix it. pls help. what should i do now?

Me (19f) and him (20m), we have been together for almost a year, he is a really good person or at least that’s how I feel. At the beginning of our relationship, i was just a rebound and he cheated on me with his ex. We broke up twice because of everything that happened. After that, he regretted it, changed a lot, and started treating me so much better. He’s now the sweetest person to me, and he puts a lot of efforts to make me happy.
Even though he changed, I still struggle to fully trust him after he lied and cheated. And lately i noticed that he doesn’t trust me either and all I’ve ever given him is honesty and loyalty. And i have a LOT of examples to share with you.
If he sees an old picture of me at a restaurant, he’ll ask who I was with, and if I say my parents, he sometimes sounds doubtful.
If random guys I don’t know like my Instagram posts or stories, he’ll ask me a lot of questions about them.
If I get home late, he’ll ask where I went, what I ate, and ask for pictures. If I miss his call because I was in the shower, he’ll ask to see my wet hair.
Whenever a guy texts me or even an old friend sends me a Reel, I tell my boyfriend before I even reply because I have nothing to hide. Once, an old school friend sent me a Reel about an inside joke we used to have, and my boyfriend kept asking for months if that guy had texted me again or liked any of my stories. He always assumes the guy is interested in me
The thing is, he never asks these questions aggressively. He’s always calm and gentle, which makes it harder for me to tell if I’m overthinking it or if he genuinely doesn’t trust me.
I don’t know if he’s insecure or if he’s projecting