u/CherryAmber__

Me (19f) and him (20m), we have been together for almost a year, he is a really good person or at least that’s how I feel. At the beginning of our relationship, i was just a rebound and he cheated on me with his ex. We broke up twice because of everything that happened. After that, he regretted it, changed a lot, and started treating me so much better. He’s now the sweetest person to me, and he puts a lot of efforts to make me happy.
Even though he changed, I still struggle to fully trust him after he lied and cheated. And lately i noticed that he doesn’t trust me either and all I’ve ever given him is honesty and loyalty. And i have a LOT of examples to share with you.
If he sees an old picture of me at a restaurant, he’ll ask who I was with, and if I say my parents, he sometimes sounds doubtful.
If random guys I don’t know like my Instagram posts or stories, he’ll ask me a lot of questions about them.
If I get home late, he’ll ask where I went, what I ate, and ask for pictures. If I miss his call because I was in the shower, he’ll ask to see my wet hair.
Whenever a guy texts me or even an old friend sends me a Reel, I tell my boyfriend before I even reply because I have nothing to hide. Once, an old school friend sent me a Reel about an inside joke we used to have, and my boyfriend kept asking for months if that guy had texted me again or liked any of my stories. He always assumes the guy is interested in me
The thing is, he never asks these questions aggressively. He’s always calm and gentle, which makes it harder for me to tell if I’m overthinking it or if he genuinely doesn’t trust me.
I don’t know if he’s insecure or if he’s projecting

I love my boyfriend, and he treats me right. We’ve had our ups and downs, but we’re still together and now we’re inseparable. We communicate about everything, and we’ve even planned our future.
But there’s one thing I’ve noticed. It feels like he wants me to be kind of obsessed with him. Whenever I’m really upset about something that’s not about him, like if I argue with my parents or if I’m sad about something , he starts acting sick or weird, almost like he’s trying to shift my attention to him. Sometimes he tells me to look at our pictures to calm down, as if they’re some kind of magic that will instantly make me feel better.
I don’t hate our pictures, but seriously… it feels like he wants me to focus on him all the time.
Also, whenever I’m sad or angry, he keeps asking the same questions:
“Do you love me?”
“Am I your everything?”
“Do you want to cuddle me?”
“I love you.”
Then I reply, “I love you too,” and he goes, “Love me too? Not more?” 🤦🏻‍♀️
Just imagine being really upset or angry, and someone keeps asking you those kinds of questions.
I don’t know if I’m overthinking it, but sometimes it makes me feel like he wants me to be obsessed with him or something.
Has anyone dealt with something like this before? Am I overthinking it, or does this sound familiar to anyone else?

Even if it’s something small or a funny moment, something that made you happy, something that made you sad, or anything in between—I’m here to listen.

We’ve been dating for several months. We broke up twice because I accused him of cheating on me. I still think he did, but afterward he seemed to feel guilty and changed for the better.
We’ve had our ups and downs, but now we have a really healthy relationship. But some things have been overthinking lately.
If one of my old male friends sends me a reel or messages me just to have a casual conversation,
I tell him about it. I don’t hide anything from him. But he gets jealous and upset, and sometimes he makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong or hiding something from him, even though I’m not.
Even if a guy I haven’t spoken to in years simply likes one of my Instagram stories, he gets really mad about it.
But when it comes to him, he doesn’t always do the same. Usually, he does tell me things, but often only after days or months. Sometimes i find things by my own. I once accidentally notice the chat while he’s scrolling through Instagram. Then he’ll say, “Oh, she just sent me a Reel,” or explain what she said.
Also one day he told me he was invited to a party, but he didn’t tell me who invited him. Later, I found out it was one of his female friends from college.

What bothers me is that he expects me to explain every small detail immediately, while he doesn’t always give me the same level of openness unless I find out or ask.

We’ve been dating for several months. We broke up twice because I accused him of cheating on me. I still think he did, but afterward he seemed to feel guilty and changed for the better.
We’ve had our ups and downs, but now we have a really healthy relationship.
The problem is that he follows a lot of girls on Instagram—around 2,000 of them. When I ask him to unfollow certain people, he removes some of them, but not the ones I specifically want him to unfollow.
For example, he unfollowed one girl that I really disliked after i asked him multiple times for months. She used to be really close to him, and I’d heard a lot of bad things about her. However, even though he unfollowed her, he still follows other people who are part of her circle.
I appreciate the fact that he unfollowed a lot of unnecessary girls after months of waiting and waiting…
I’m not the type of girlfriend who’s jealous for no reason. I’m really not.
The reason this bothers me is because he has a messy past with a lot of girls, and I want those girls to be completely out of his life. I don’t expect him to unfollow every girl he knows. I don’t mind if he keeps following female friends or people he genuinely knows.
What bothers me is that he still follows girls he had failed talking stages with or girls he has an inappropriate history with. He doesn’t seem willing to unfollow them, and I just don’t understand why he feels the need to keep them around.

(21F, 22M) when we started dating, i was just a rebound, he wasn’t over his ex and she wasn’t over him either, she kept texting and calling. He never set proper boundaries with her. He was always too friendly, and it caused so many problems that we broke up twice because of her. Before our second breakup, I believe he was cheating on me with her because of the way he was treating me at that time( doesn’t call me until 4 or 5pm, ignores my calls, saying he’s with friends and doesn’t spam or tells what they’re doing, no dates, no efforts, ignores my feelings…) it was really toxic for me.
After the second breakup ( after he unblocked and she invited him for a date and he was giving her hope as usual ), he admitted he was wrong ( but didn’t admit that he cheated) and promised he would change. He said he would block her everywhere and cut all contact with her. Since then, he has genuinely changed. He treats me so much better now, puts effort into our relationship, and we’ve had a healthy relationship ever since.
But the resentment is still there. Yesterday, we were scrolling on his Instagram, and her account appeared in the suggested accounts.I realized she wasn’t blocked and he noticed it and blocked her but seeing that brought back all the hurt and made me question everything again and again.

I’m 20, and I’m bored. I don’t do anything. I don’t work, I barely leave the house, and I spend most of my time on my phone. I only hang out with my boyfriend on the weekends.
I have friends, but they’re not the kind of friends I can spend time with regularly. They’re all pretty lazy and don’t really do much, so we rarely go out or make plans.
My family isn’t very social either. All they do is stay at home and argue. We never go out together or spend quality time as a family, so being at home all week feels draining.
I want to make new friends, but I don’t know how. I also can’t get a job because my parents won’t allow me to work, so I feel stuck at home during the weekdays with nothing to do.
I’m trying to motivate myself, but every time I start doing something, I can’t seem to stay consistent. It makes me feel like I’m wasting my days, and I don’t know how to get out of this routine.

My mind keeps repeating the same thoughts, over and over again. I need to sleep i have work after few hours. Im tired of this, it happens always even when im a little sad. Idk what to do, this is affecting my whole life in a terrible way. What should i do

I grew up in a toxic family. My dad was emotionally abusive and, at times, physically abusive. My childhood was traumatizing—there was constant screaming, yelling, and violence. He would find the stupidest reasons to start huge fights. He would yell at us and even hit us in public, acting like he was a “tough father.” My mom always tried her best to calm things down, but it was never enough.
Now I’m a 20-year-old woman, and I’ve struggled with suicidal thoughts since I was 16. I’ve attempted to end my life several times, although none of the attempts were serious. I live with anxiety everywhere I go and in everything I do. I can’t stop hating my father. I’m dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts.
I’m in a very healthy relationship, but I still find myself becoming intensely angry over the smallest mistakes my boyfriend makes. The same thing happens in my friendships. If I feel disrespected, I immediately cut people out of my life because I can’t tolerate being treated that way.
When I get extremely angry, I completely lose control. I start hitting my head, throwing things, yelling, and eventually I just break down crying. The whole experience feels overwhelming, and afterward I feel emotionally drained.
I’m worried about my health and my future because my anger issues are becoming overwhelming. They make me hate everyone and everything. I try my best to move forward, but it feels like my mind is still trapped in that toxic house.
Can therapy and medication actually help with this, or are they useless? Has anyone been through something similar and gotten better?

I grew up in a toxic family. My dad was emotionally abusive and, at times, physically abusive. My childhood was traumatizing—there was constant screaming, yelling, and violence. He would find the stupidest reasons to start huge fights. He would yell at us and even hit us in public, acting like he was a “tough father.” My mom always tried her best to calm things down, but it was never enough.
Now I’m a 20-year-old woman, and I’ve struggled with suicidal thoughts since I was 16. I’ve attempted to end my life several times, although none of the attempts were serious. I live with anxiety everywhere I go and in everything I do. I can’t stop hating my father. I’m dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts.
I’m in a very healthy relationship, but I still find myself becoming intensely angry over the smallest mistakes my boyfriend makes. The same thing happens in my friendships. If I feel disrespected, I immediately cut people out of my life because I can’t tolerate being treated that way.
When I get extremely angry, I completely lose control. I start hitting my head, throwing things, yelling, and eventually I just break down crying. The whole experience feels overwhelming, and afterward I feel emotionally drained.
I’m worried about my health and my future because my anger issues are becoming overwhelming. They make me hate everyone and everything. I try my best to move forward, but it feels like my mind is still trapped in that toxic house.
Can therapy and medication actually help with this, or are they useless? Has anyone been through something similar and gotten better?

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Tl;dr (22F) I feel like I can’t trust a man for too long. I always feel like he’s eventually going to cheat or change somehow. Is this because of past trauma, or is it actually true? I’ve seen a lot of men who used to treat their partners amazingly and give them everything, but years later they changed completely.
Have any of y’all had a genuinely good man by your side who eventually betrayed you or changed? I’m curious to hear other people’s experiences because sometimes I wonder if this happens in most relationships or if my fears are just affecting the way I see things.

Tl;dr Me (22F) and him (23M), what bothers me that he already knows what he did wrong, he knows exactly when I’m hurt and angry about something.
Instead of fixing it immediately, he just ask things like “is something wrong” , “do u want me to do anything to fix it” , “are u angry?” over and over.

One situation that really frustrated me was when he was talking about a girl he followed. I asked him why he didn’t just unfollow her if she meant nothing to him. He said he didn’t care about her and that she wasn’t important.

Then he noticed I was upset and kept asking things like, “Are you okay?” “Are you mad about this girl or just sleepy?” “Just tell me if you want me to unfollow her and I’ll do it”

What bothered me is that he could clearly see what the issue was. If he truly didn’t care about her and knew it was hurting me, why wait for me to tell him exactly what to do? Why not do it on his own?

Instead, he kept asking me to confirm it over and over. I stayed quiet because I wanted to see whether he would unfollow her by himself after realizing how much it was affecting me. He never did.

This isn’t really about one girl anymore. It’s about feeling like he waits for me to reach my breaking point before taking action. I feel like I always have to be the one pushing, explaining, setting limits, and repeating myself.

Tl;DR Im 22F and my bf is 23M, when we started dating, it was only a few weeks after he broke up with his ex. During the talking stage, he often spoke badly about her, saying she was toxic and that she had cheated on him multiple times.

Early on, he even asked to take a photo of us so he could post it, mainly so his ex would see it and get jealous. It worked—she saw the post and started contacting him again, trying to get back with him.
He didn’t set clear boundaries with her. Instead, he continued communicating and, in a way, kept giving her hope. This made me very uncomfortable, and I told him multiple times to block her. He did, but she kept finding ways to contact him, and he eventually unblocked her again.

At one point, she directly asked him to meet up, and he even considered it and tried to ask for my permission to go. I didn’t understand why he needed to meet her at all, especially since she was clearly a trying to get back with him.I broke up with him and told him to go back to her, because I felt just like a rebound.

After that, he claimed he blocked her, although I didn’t fully trust that. He also made promises and tried to reassure me, so we eventually got back together. But over time, his behavior his behavior became inconsistent. He didn’t put effort into my birthday, we went long periods without dates, and he often prioritized his friends over me. He also became distant at times—sometimes not calling me until late, and other times being overly affectionate, which made things feel unstable for me. And i have this gut feeling telling me he was cheating on me with her.

Later, he unblocked her. She again suggested meeting up, very directly, and he seemed to justify it by saying she still wasn’t over him, also was as usual very friendly and no boundary. I broke up with him again and my trust was completely broken.

He begged me to come back, and we got back together again. Right now, he treats me well in many ways, he is kind, takes me on dates, and can be very sweet. He also says that I changed him for the better, that his “past mistakes” are behind him, and that he sees me as the person he wants forever
but I still don’t trust him when it comes to other girls.

+ he has history of long relationships(probably cheated on all of them not sure about that) and has dated many people before. He also follows a LOT of girls on social media, many of whom post revealing content. When I ask him to unfollow some of them, he often refuses and makes excuses, saying he knows them or talked to them in the past.

He also tends to stare at girls in public, ask a lot of questions about them, always curious about them, and show strong interest in how they look or where they are from. It makes me uncomfortable and feels disrespectful at times. I’m lost in this relationship and idk if i should stay or leave.