Help me with my dating profile
Hello poly reddit.
Backstory. I've only done dating apps once 8 years ago, did it very half assed, and ended up meeting a long term partner the first week(luck). Asked my current partner for help, she suggested I post here since it's been longer for her.
This is basically the same profile I have on Feeld and Okcupid. Except on Feeld I have "kink friendly" at the end, and the hidden section for matches. Also have this on plura, but Ive been neglecting that app.
Maybe it's too wordy, but also shallow? The neurospicy in can't tell. Thanks in advance for feedback.
Vitals, 38, white male. Demisexual, I have demi showing in the orientation/options, so don't mention it in profile body, but maybe I should? Don't have kids and don't want them myself which is selected, but I don't have a problem with them. My current partner has two, they're awesome, so maybe put that in the body?
I edited out some specifics and changed minor details, a friend of mine is always on here, and kind of embarrassed about posting. He'll probably figure it out and roast me a little in private, but give me earnest advice anyways😂
My profile body.
Neurospicy geek here!
Poly with one LTR partner. We're two cities and a long drive away now due to work moves, so it's LDR, but fairly high frequency LDR. We date separately. It's a KTP dynamic. Which has been great, it fits naturally for us, but I've dated parallel, too, I let things fit however feels natural. I don't date DATY(to each their own, not my thing).
I'm Looking to find a local person/s. Open to wherever a relationship develops naturally, but I'm not a hookup/ONS stand person. I'm looking for ongoing regular dates or hang outs. Not hard set on frequency, but once a week on up where schedule permits would be cool. If there's long term potential even better. Someone to go on some random outings(parks, to water, thrifting, farmers markets, etc), go to concerts or comedy shows. I've noticed with now being in an LDR that I miss the frequency of the little things, so someone to enjoy the chill times, some cuddles to a trippy thriller/campy sci-fi show/movie with some good convo would be great
I'm pretty romantic, and also pretty open if I'm comfortable. Touch is my main love language, but quality time and the others are important.
---edited location history out here, but was one sentence long----
My personality:
Astrology messes with my logical brain, but ---edited out my sign--- kinda hits it on the nail at least for surface level🤣 So for fun: ---edited--- out my birth chart signs---. I'm pretty social, for sure an extrovert, but with a healthy need for down time. I can get sucked into a random convo about parallel universes late into the night, or be down for trying something I've never done.
l♥️ travel. Favorite ---edited out, it detailed a time I lived out of country--- My travel bucket list is long!
I'm a geek with geek hobbies(MTG, board games), and a nerd with nerd hobbies(amateur astronomy, fixing busted computers/game consoles). If it sounds fun, I usually try it, or you could get me to. Used to swing dance in college, and been wanting to do that again. I like dressing up and going to festivals(---edited---)!
I'm hooked on audiobooks, currently going back through early cyberpunk, but enjoy lit, classic lit, fantasy. I'm a podcast junkie, space topics or any mystery stuff is my jam.
Poly for 11 years. I started with a KTP polycule, then dated happily solo parallel for years until I met my current partner. It's KTP, real friend switch her hubby. We date separately, and I'm happy with any dynamic that is natural(except DATY, not for me), but I do like the closeness and community feel when everyone gets along in person. That said, I'm not trying to find someone to shove into that dynamic.
I sometimes ramble 😅, but I swear I'll listen 🤪
I'll pass on right wingers/apolitical/etc.
You'll also get pics of my dog being cute as hell.
Thats it.
After copying it here and reading through, I caught stuff and repition I already want to edit, but leaving as is for advice!
I live in a pretty liberal city so there's a solid dating pool. I've got matches and started chatting. Haven't had this up for too long, but my gut says it's probably lacking or maybe too long.
I'm kind of awkward when texting/messaging someone I don't know yet. Come off a little rigid, I think. I'm really comfortable with strangers/new people in person though, people say I'm fun. So I'm comfortable with dates early on vs messaging a lot, but I know that's not a comfort level for many which is totally understandable, so I left that out of the profile. I don't even say that when chatting early....well because of the "bad at texting" cliche...but it's true😭. Plus when I thought of putting something about this in, I was worried it'd give the impression I must be awkward/rigid in person, too. Or it would seem like I'm just looking for a hookup/ONS, which I'm not. There may be no good way to get this across and I'll just chug through the awkwardness.
Oh, is a cat in a pic really as much of an auto pass as it seems from this sub? I don't have a picture with my dog currently, but I got one holding my friend's kitten because I think it's a flattering photo of me lol.
Thanks for any advice poly friends