Feel like a single parent to my BS when my SS is with us
First of all, I don't know if the advice flair is going to be correct here, I don't know what I want or need.
My husband and I have his son (10) once a weeknight and every other weekend, and we have a 2 year old together. When SS is with his BM, things are mostly fine. But when my SS is at our house, I feel like I'm a single mom to my BS and he's a single dad to my SS. Don't get me wrong, I love my SS immensely, and before having my 2 year old I didn't have any real issues with this, but now it's just getting to me.
And I get it, my SS would rather have his dad get him ready for bed, but that means I'm the one dealing with a toddler every single time, and it's just starting to feel unfair? Obviously it's not just bedtime, it's like anything whenever he's here. I don't know, maybe this is normally how a blended family works? Does anyone else deal with this? How do you put up with it, or do I need to get over myself?