INTJ married to ENFP for 15 years…
She hates the fact that I’m a “T”. She says she could hear words of affection all day long and it wouldn’t be enough while my reaction to that is “I can probably squeeze out 5 in a day.”
I love her, but it’s also incredibly frustrating how I am not able to meet her love language needs (and hearing about it). When I make an effort these days I guess it comes off as strictly effort, plus the fact that she doesn’t want to get her hopes up because she’ll be eventually disappointed.
I know I’m in the ENFP den here which is the perfect place for opinions on this matter. I can’t help but be me, but I want to be a good husband. I feel like her essence is almost the total opposite of me. Yet I also know we compliment each others shortcomings. I am quite easily pleased emotionally while she needs more to be satisfied, but it doesn’t register with me sometimes. I feel like a psychopath at times.