Ghosted by a friend
I am feeling heavy so just wanted to get it off my chest. I am a guy and I was a friend with this girl for last 3 years. It was on/off relationship. We had our share of fights but after few weeks we would get back and it would be like nothing has happened. I treated her like a friend and been there in her ups and downs. She was going through the issues in her personal life and I was there for her on everytime. I was on her speed dial for any issues other than her family members.
Last december, she had an issue with her living situation and wanted to get an apartment for herself. She had money issues so she asked my help. She asked for $1000.She said that this would be a loan and she would pay it back. This all happened on text messages. In February, she got the apartment with my help and just to get my confidence she paid back $100. I said that its fine as we are not going to stop meeting. That was my biggest mistake. She kept me in dark about one part of her life and within 15 days of moving into the apartment, she got married to her childhood froend. She did not bother to tell me about her wedding. When I found out, I felt blindsided by this sudden development. When I asked her about this, instead of responding to me, she blocked me. Now I am feel like someone has cheated me off my $900.
I know I can go to court to get this amount but its not worth. Other than all the hassles, It might destroy her new wedding and I do not want to do that. After all I had treated her like a friend. I feel ashamed that I ignored all the red flags as I was always more involved in this friendship than she was.