My (26M) girlfriend (25F) ex keeps messaging her
Me and my girlfriend have been together almost a year now. Things are going great, we live together, and I really see a future with this woman.
Before we got together, her last real relationship lasted 5 years during and after high school. From what I understand the guy was kind of a loser (didn’t really have a job, lived with her and her parents at home, needed her credit to get a car). They were also pretty toxic to each other (put hands on each, fought a lot, etc). There is still a lot of history there though - 5 years is a long time at our age, I guess there was an engagement somewhere in there, a breakup and back together and a breakup again.
Jump forward and we are now dating, but this ex keeps reaching out every once in a while. He joined the armed forces sometime before we got together and sent her a letter from boot camp “hope you’re doing well, maybe I’ll come say hi to you and your folks when I’m on leave” - she didn’t respond. A few months later she gets a text from an unknown number “hope you’re alright, just missed you” - she responded politely and said she had a man. He sent some follow up text and she blocked him.
Just now I was playing on the PS5 we share and I noticed an unopened message, “hey please call me” and gives a phone number. Like 2 days later there’s another message “ignore that I was drunk good luck to you and your man”.
Any advice for how I should proceed? Part of me wants to talk to her about it, part of me wants to text the guy myself and tell him to kick rocks. I trust her completely and don’t think she would ever reach out to him in an unfaithful way, I just don’t like this dude thinking about my girl after all this time 😂