Parents only taught me hygiene practices that are visible, and neglected the rest. Can anyone help identify what I might still be missing?
My parents only taught me to "appear" hygienic without caring too much about actual hygiene. This means teaching me to brush my teeth with an electric toothbrush, use shampoo, and wear deodorant. In the same vein, they also demanded me to have clean shaven armpits and legs at all time. Meanwhile, any hygiene practice that wasn't directly obvious to the naked eye wasn't important. This is my honest timeline:
Age 5: I saw my classmates shame another kid for not washing their hands after going to the bathroom, so I started doing that too. It was kind of a struggle teaching myself because my parents just straight up didn't have it in the house.
age 9: started using lip balm and cleaning under my nails, again learning from my female peers in school.
Age 15: started washing my face more diligently. Got a basic skincare routine for my face (cleanser and moisturizer). Also started to brush my tongue and palate.
age 20: Learned other people actually use body wash and started to use it. Did more research online and also started to use a body moisturizer. Also learned to properly wash my vulva.
Age 22: the pandemic happens and I learn to wash my hands directly after coming home.
age 25: got a bidet and started flossing.
I've asked them about it as an adult multiple times. The subject usually comes up when I use their bathroom and ask them to provide hand soap for me. They scoff and get out a bottle from some kitchen cupboard; it's been the same small 150ml bottle for YEARS. My mom claims I "didn't want to learn anyway" and also: "what, so you think you're all high and mighty now?" I don't eat at their house anymore.
Anyway, I hope I'm welcome here without too much judgement. You can judge my parents all you want, though. I'm worried I'm still missing some things, can anyone help give me some pointers?