u/ReserveImmediate9683

Can you have a one year affair with someone, message daily for hours, see each other 3 x a week, be each other’s support, have amazing chemistry like never before.. and not have feelings?
I’m married and he ended it with me (and it was a hard decision for him that he dragged out) when he separated from his wife to start fresh with his kids. I know he then found a new girlfriend.
Despite this, he came back. Id leave to be with him. Our connection was just so good, unlike I’ve ever had. I just don’t know if he has feelings or ever has. With a new relationship, that’s normally the best honeymoon phase yet he still came back.

My AP and I had a hot physical and emotional affair for a year. When I say hot, we couldn’t keep our hands off each other and caught up however and whenever we could. We chatted and confided in each other every day.

I am married and he was newly single plus ten years younger than me, so when he and his wife separated he ended our affair to start again.

He started seeing someone from his past and though I was devastated, I wished him well.

Six weeks later, he messaged me, saying how torn he was. He wanted to commit but also missed me and what we had. I have/had no desire to do this with anyone else so we agreed maybe a sexual hook up every once in a while.

Well 3 months later it’s increasing and we both love it. I don’t know if he’s with his new partner or not, I assume so, I don’t really want to know. I wish we could both admit we want to be together. But neither of us have ever broached it being more than an affair. I do love him damn it.

Hi.. so I was in a year long affair with my perfect person. We were so compatible in every way and couldn’t get enough of each other - hours of messaging, meeting twice a week, laughing, talking.. etc.
Toward the end his home life wasn’t great so he and his wife separated. He moved out and wanted a clean slate so ended it. I was gutted. He got a new girlfriend and I stayed no contact after wishing him well.
Six weeks later he messaged and wanted to see me again. We did. After that, he was very torn and didn’t know which way to go. I expected him to step away again. But it’s the opposite, after a few weeks silence, he came back and it’s been back on once a week since. Last time he was super affectionate and gave me this lingering stare as I left. It just felt different.
I know he’s conflicted and doesn’t want both but it seems neither of us can walk away from each other. I’m not sure how to broach it with him.. I haven’t asked about the new girlfriend, I don’t want to know to be honest. And before anyone says he wants his cake and eat it too, it’s not that. There’s a genuine emotional pull there for both of us.