My (25M) partner (24F) is upset because I don’t like to be tickled. How do I resolve the situation?
We have been together for 2 years, and recently she has been tickling me. Since childhood, I have absolutely hated being tickled. With her, it isn’t as bad, but it is still physically irritating and stressful. When she tickles me, she tickles very hard with her nails. She does it so often (sitting, standing, walking, inside, outside, etc) that it’s almost hard for me to relax around her. I hate to be constantly tense in front of someone, and the last person I want to stress me out is my partner. All I want is to be able to unwind and relax at least SOMETIMES while I’m around her, and not be worried about a sudden, sharp pain in some of the most sensitive areas of my body.
However, not tickling me would be very hard for her, and would make her very sad (and upset/quiet). I want her to feel fine being herself and not having to hold back because of me, and I don’t want to upset her or cause her any grief. How can we resolve this to fit for both of us?