u/ResponsibleTennis444

When people go out of body or have communications from a medium with their loved ones, or have an NDE they often speak about how feelings and emotions are ramped up significantly, there is an overwhelming sense of love and peacefulness during the experience. They feel seen by a divine being transparently, feel sorry for their wrongs, are forgiven etc.

Why does it feel like sometimes these feelings of love, mercy, tolerance, kindness are frowned upon? I dont get it. Im not saying everything is perfect or there is no such thing as negativity or karma. But it just seems like the emphasis is never on the fact that higher beings or God can be loving and merciful. And again dont twist my words, im not saying there's no judgment or people should get away Scott free with their crimes. Definitely not. But it almost feels like "hey there's an afterlife and chance you may see your loved ones but dont forget your all karmically flawed in some way so dont hold out hope". Its so hard sometimes. I dont mean to sound sarcastic or bitter im just confused. Im just sad. Im losing people around me and I want to see them again. I dont mean any offense in this

This was from Marilynn Hughes, she has a YouTube channel that goes into these things. She talks a lot about OBE's, hell, repentance, redemption, Higher realms etc. I asked her about reincarnation because of my fears and her answer helped me a lot so I thought I would share:

Marilynn:

One of the most important things to understand about reincarnation is that the soul is much greater than the personality we know during one earthly lifetime. We tend to think of ourselves as the person we are here—the personality, memories, circumstances and relationships of this particular life. But the soul extends far beyond that one expression. What we experience as an individual lifetime is only one portion of a much larger spiritual existence.

For that reason, I don't think we should necessarily picture reincarnation as one person leaving the afterlife, becoming someone else, and thereby becoming completely inaccessible to those who remain there. The spiritual reality is much more intricate than that. A soul can participate in an earthly incarnation while still having a spiritual existence that is not confined to the physical personality living that life.

When two souls genuinely love one another, that love creates a spiritual bond. That bond is not simply erased because one person dies, or because one person reincarnates before another.

In fact, I think the idea that we must all be in the same physical state at the same time in order to remain connected is a limitation of our earthly way of thinking. We experience time and separation so strongly here that we naturally assume they must operate in exactly the same way beyond this life. I don't believe we can assume that.

And I especially wouldn't worry about having to wait endlessly for someone you love to "catch up." The spiritual reality doesn't work according to that kind of linear timetable at all. Love is not waiting in a room for someone else to arrive. Love is a connection that already exists and remains eternally.

Some comfort to those like myself who are lost at times.

These days I find myself in such pain and sadness thinking about reincarnation , and not understanding it. There's nothing that haunts me more than thinking about being separated from the ones I love or some of them being reincarnated while i'm in the afterlife, or vice versa. I have no deeper desire in my heart than to just be with the ones I love when I die.And i'm sure many of us feel the same. I hope that even if some of them do reincarnate , we'll be able to find each other again, somehow. I'll wait for them no matter how long that helps me feel better.

This is a super short video where someone talks about reincarnation. He basically says that what if our soul is not traveling from life to death to life to death but consciousness is being experienced at a point where time is experienced differently. And as a result, when we experience a memory or dream of past lives it's possible that its an expansion of consciousness, but all those lives exist as separate individuals, and are simply experienced when tapped into.

I want this to be true. I cant bear the thought of separation from those I love. I want to be me.

I've seen some YouTube videos of mediums being able to contact their reincarnated selves from the past, and those reincarnated portions still exist and I'm assuming have their own full lives in the afterlife. Does that mean we always retain our individuality and the awareness we are now is who we are forever?

I won't get into it too much, but when I was younger, a preteen/teen, I potentially caused harm to others. At the time I didnt realize what I did could have been harmful and the guilt and regret hit me years later. It took me a while but ive been on a steady path of repentance and becoming a better person. I think i have. I dont think the people I potentially caused harm to remember, and I fear if I apologize they will recieve trauma and pain because I wanted to feel better by apologizing. I know that closing a karmic loop involves closing loops with those you've harmed. I want that, but not at the expense of causing more pain.

My question is: do I apologize and potentially cause damage and pain to someone who doesnt remember, or do I hope for a chance to apologize in the afterlife after we both have gone through our life reviews? Am I sinning by not apologizing?

When we die, can we ask the angels or higher beings how to stay in the afterlife eternally and avoid reincarnation? Can we ask for ways to balance or work out our karma and issues on that side so we don't have to reincarnate and change who we are?