Not really sure if there is etiquette for this. There have been times where I try to take a pause when the host is low on health but they keep attacking so I go ahead and kill them. Then everyone gestures as if they're upset that I ended the session for everyone. I love coming across little fight clubs so I really don't want to spoil them, thanks.
It is just me, or does everything just hurt?? My back constantly hurts, my feet hurt, I am going to physical therapy for my shoulder, a few times I show up and I am just not physically able to complete the clean. I work by myself so I have no extra help, and I do not really want to expand to getting employees. To be honest, sometimes I will get halfway through a rental, sit down to rest for 10 minutes and it is so hard to motivate myself to finish. It seems that when I hear about other cleaners they are working longer hours than me and are able to do it in a faster time and I just don't know how that's possible. I'm in my late 20's I dont feel like I should be hurting this much. Every clean that takes longer than about 3 hours it mentally draining because I feel like I am having to push myself, leading me to feel even more burned out. Thank you, and I am happy to have found this community.
Me and my boyfriend met about 7 years ago. We get along 90% of the time and have a great time together but when we do argue it seems to turn into this dramatic blowup everytime. About 30 minutes ago we just had an argument and I want to write about it while it is fresh on my mind.
He initally came in telling me that my car has a flat tire, saying that I need to take it in to get it patched tomorrow morning. I say that I have a physical therapy appointment tomorrow afternoon and don't want to cancel it because I am in a lot of pain. I was looking for a solution from him, maybe a car ride, but didn't explicitly say that. It bothered me that I felt immediately blamed for the nail in my tire. He said "why did you drive through a construction zone" and I said I couldn't avoid it. He didn't believe me, so I had to further explain that the construction is on the road to a dead end, so there is no choice but to drive through there to get to the place I needed to go.
He also got frustrated with me about the physical therapy appointment I made. When I went to the doctor he originally told me "Figure out what is wrong". I didn't know that he meant a literal diagnosis, the doctor told me that it is probably my rotator cuff in my shoulder and that I should go to physical therapy. He told me that it's stupid for me to go to the doctor and not get a diagnosis, that going to the gym to do some windmills for my arm isn't going to help. At this point we were both getting upset, I told him I was done talking but he kept going.
At this point in the argument I was fed up and said f you. He slammed the door and left to take a shower.
We reconnected afterwards (30 minutes or so) and explained why we both were frustrated. From his side he said he doesn't understand why I'm getting upset when he is just trying to help me, that I shouldn't talk to him so rudely. I tried to tell him I was upset because I felt blamed for the nail in my tire and belittled because I didn't know that I was supposed to get a concrete diagnosis from the doctor. He is probably right though, I should have found out exactly what is wrong with my shoulder instead of what it "probably" is. He said that it was stupid to go to the doctor and not find out what is wrong and that I should have done that.
Neither of us apologize and again we devolve into fighting. I keep interrupting him and he tells me to "shut the f up, stop interrupting". I don't even really remember what was said at this point.
We have been to therapy in the past, which has helped but every few months it seems we have moments like this.
TLDR: Boyfriend and I say mean things and slam doors when we argue and I have no idea what is classified as normal or healthy, or how to even start to address this. I feel like I am the issue or at least part of it.