I need some honest advice because I feel emotionally confused and attached to this relationship
Me 25M and She 27F
My girlfriend and I officially got together in 2025, but we had known each other before that as well. During the time before our relationship, she had a very complicated past and was involved with other people. Some things I later found out hurt me emotionally because I felt she was not always fully honest with me about who she was talking to and what was happening in her life.
There were times in the past when she blocked me, pushed me away emotionally, or said hurtful things during arguments. I also supported her emotionally and sometimes financially because I cared deeply about her.
Despite everything, I chose to accept her past because I genuinely love her. Since getting together officially, things have become much more peaceful between us, and she seems more caring, understanding, and serious about the relationship now.
The problem is that sometimes I still overthink the past and wonder if I ignored too many red flags because of my feelings for her. Part of me believes people can grow and change, while another part of me worries about getting hurt in the future.
For people who have experienced difficult relationships before — can trust and stability genuinely be rebuilt after a messy past, or is this a sign that I am too emotionally attached to think clearly?