Help me think through my situation?
I've been a FT youth pastor at my church for almost 5 years. Before that, I was a PT youth pastor at a church my wife and I really loved. Took a break during COVID before taking up my current role, which involved a big move.
5 years in, my wife and I are still pretty unhappy in our current church. It's...fine. Other people really love the church, but we both feel like it's hard to get on board with the overall vision and direction of the church. I'm on good terms with all the staff, including the other pastors. We have four beautiful girls who all seem to be growing in their relationship with the Lord and have meaningful friendships in the church. We are nervous about the idea of forcing them to leave those behind when they made a hard transition when we first came here.
Without getting too specific, our 'issues' at our current church are mostly preferences. There's no theological issues or even secondary important issues. But my wife and I both agree that if I weren't on staff here, we wouldn't be bringing our family here every week. Neither of us have found deep friendships at this church (maybe because I'm a pastor? Maybe just the area we're in?). My wife isn't flourishing and I'm feeling stuck and frustrated. Can anyone offer insight or thoughts? I've been stuck in my head on this for so long, I could use some outside wisdom.
TL;DR - made a big move to current church, kids are doing well and are happy there, parents are not. Dad is on staff as youth pastor.