I think I made my co-worker quit.
At my job (childcare), we work in pairs. We, as teams of two, have a classroom of children to manage.
i worked with this girl for 2 years, but neither year was great.
But this last year, it was especially bad. She said some inappropriate stuff to the toddlers. She was on her phone all the time, she told me on multiple occasions that when I wasn’t there she almost lost a kid, and I felt like I was the only one interacting with the kids.
I am such a people pleaser, though, so I let most things go and didn’t make her aware that it was bothering me.
I went to our boss and let her know that it wasn’t going great and I’d really like a new co-teacher next year.
so my boss let her know I wanted to work with someone else. Well, she came back to me and said she was sorry and asked if we could talk. I said yes, but now, right now, as we were supposed to be watching the kids.
She went back to my boss a few days later and told her I was unwilling to talk and wouldn’t accept her apology. That’s not completely true. I kept waiting on her to talk to me (maybe I should’ve started the conversation), and I didn’t not accept her apology. I just didn’t say “it’s okay” or “it’s fine.”
I realize now that I should have been more open about my feelings.
It’s now summer break, and she’s unfriended me on everything and taken herself out of the work group chat, and I feel like I’ve hurt her and that was never my intention.
I feel like maybe I was partially in the wrong here. I definitely should have spoken up and not made it seem like we were good when I was frustrated. But I also feel like I am valid in wanting to work with someone else.
So my question is, should I reach out? Should I just let it go? Was I in the wrong?