u/Revolutionary_Top596

My friends 10 year old son starts crying whenever he gets on the phone with his mom during dad’s parenting time. This has been going on since he was 5 years old and bio dad chalked it up to age since he was still so young and obviously misses his mom.. but is getting concerned about how strong the reaction still is at son’s current age. Son doesn’t ask to call mom, the calls happen because the mom asks. Dad is okay with the calls as he doesn’t want to hinder any communication between them, but doesn’t feel easy about how upset and dysregulated his son gets during the call and afterwards(sometimes takes a day or 2 for kid to get back to normal self.) Should the calls still happen? Any advice how to handle this? There’s nothing in the parenting plan stating a call is mandatory.

For the past month every transition day for child (10 year old boy) has resulted in them bullying a kid about inappropriate things at school. Transitioning to my house is ok for them, but this only happens transitioning from mine to the other parents house. We have tried grounding from tv/video games, no going out with friends, no toys. This last time we tried a rewarding system for having a good week that worked up until they had to transition to other parents week.

Has anyone else had similar issues? If so, what have you found helps the child best? Any advice and suggestions are appreciated