*UPDATE* My husband and I recently opened our marriage. We *never* talk about it and have only 3 rules. This approach seems to go against conventional wisdom - but it's going fine for us. What am I missing?
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/comments/1og59bf/
I received comments asking me to report back in a year, and many private messages asking for an update. It's been a year since my original post, and here is what I can share:
- I don't know if my husband has had any extra-marital involvements. He has plenty of opportunity to do so, with solo social engagements and work trips. To be honest, I don't think much about it.
- I also have plenty of solo social engagements and work trips, and my husband doesn't show any signs of heightened curiosity around those. His behavior seems to indicate that he's not really thinking about it either.
- I still have an emotional involvement with the same person from a year ago. I've found that when I feel more connected to him, I also feel more connected to my husband and more present in my marriage. It's been a net positive experience.
- My husband and I have made reference to the open marriage twice in the past year in the context of discussing larger structural elements in our shared life. We did not discuss the open marriage itself - we just acknowledged its existence as an established factor.
- In general, it's been a good year. We're happy and our family is thriving.