u/Rich_Acadia3867

Hi everyone. I wanted to leave a message of comfort, especially from a husband’s perspective, for those who are currently walking through the darkest parts of this journey.

To be honest, I was very reluctant to visit the fertility clinic at first. Like many ignorant husbands, I foolishly thought infertility could never be my problem. But when we finally visited one day out of frustration, the results showed that my sperm count was nearly zero. I was diagnosed with a varicocele and had to undergo surgery.

Watching my wife go through 10 painful IVF cycles and 5 miscarriages after that broke my heart in ways I can never fully express. Looking back, we were so naive at the beginning, thinking everything would be solved as long as we did IVF. We had no idea it would turn into such an endless journey.

During our long and painful road, I had to watch my younger brother’s family, who got married 4 years later than us, quickly have two children back-to-back. Going to family holidays felt like walking into a room full of thorns, and the heartbreak and sense of loss were indescribable. I also remember the painful sting of seeing other IVF warriors who started around the same time as us finally achieve their dreams, leaving me with a deep sense of isolation as if we were the only ones left behind in the dark.

If you are feeling envious, devastated, or even resentful of other people’s happy news tonight, please know this: Your feelings are completely valid. It is a deeply natural human emotion, and you should never, ever blame yourself for feeling this way. You are not bad people; you are just human beings who are hurting deeply.

And there is one more thing I truly want to tell you: Miscarriage is absolutely no one's fault. Having gone through 5 miscarriages ourselves, there were times we blamed ourselves, but it is truly no one's fault.

This process breaks us down in ways no one else can understand. But please remember that you are not alone in that dark tunnel. I’ve come to realize that just knowing someone is walking alongside you can be a huge source of strength.

Sending you all so much love and silent hugs.

Hi everyone. It’s been over a decade, but the memories are still so vivid. I wanted to share our story here, hoping it might bring a little bit of comfort or hope to someone who is currently in the thick of this exhausting journey.

To be precise, it was my wife who endured 10 full IVF cycles. In the beginning, I naively thought, "We'll just do the procedure and it’ll work." I was so ignorant back then.

The joy of seeing a positive beta test was always short-lived. We experienced multiple miscarriages. The most painful one was losing the baby even after hearing the beautiful sound of the heartbeat. It was an incredibly dark and devastating time.

Even after all these years, I still carry a deep sense of guilt and profound gratitude toward my wife for everything she put her body and soul through.

In Korea, we have a famous proverb: "There is no tree that won't fall after ten axe strokes." For us, that tenth and absolute final attempt was the miracle. It worked, and today, we are raising our beautiful daughter.

I’m here because I want to share my experience. If you are feeling broken or wondering if you should keep going, please know you are not alone. I genuinely want to be of some help or support to this community. Hang in there.

Hi everyone, following up on my previous intro, I wanted to share a bit more about how my journey unexpectedly started.

When my wife and I first struggled to conceive, I naturally assumed it was her issue. Then one day, after a heated argument about our fertility struggles, I went to a local clinic out of pure frustration just to get tested. That’s when the doctor looked at me with a dead serious face and said, "There’s almost nothing visible here." They immediately referred me to a major university hospital. It was a complete reality check.

In South Korea, luckily, the medical system is very accessible. You can pretty much walk into a nearby urologist and get a semen analysis right away. They put you in a small, private room equipped with a monitor and a headset, and you get the results very quickly.

Over the years, I’ve experienced almost everything—from varicocele surgery, chromosome testing, and hormone injections, to Korean traditional herbal medicine and acupuncture.

I know how deeply isolating and exhausting this fight can be for a man. I genuinely want to share my experiences and be of some help or comfort to anyone who is currently struggling in this community. Please feel free to ask me anything. Hang in there, brothers.

Hi everyone, first time posting here. My own journey with MFI started about a decade ago, back in 2014. I recently felt like looking back and sharing a bit of my story.

To be honest, in the beginning, I just assumed the issue was with my wife. Out of frustration, I went to get tested, only to be told they suspected azoospermia. It was a huge shock.

Later, I was diagnosed with a varicocele and got surgery, but it didn't really improve my numbers.

Looking back now, I realize I was just so ignorant back then. I didn't know anything. I just wanted to drop by, say hello, and remind anyone struggling right now that you're not alone.