Need advice on this weird friendship/situationship
Ok, this might not be the right community, I don't know.
This is about to be a long story, but I really need some advice on this because I need to get it off my chest (and get some opinions).
Okay, so I had a friend group some time ago. I had a friend we're going to call "Ayleen." This girl was really into a boy we're going to call "Fabian."
Well, they started dating at some point, and I was really happy for them. I genuinely became friends with Fabian because he was my friend's boyfriend, duh. When we started being friends, it was really fun. We had the same humor and always had a great time together. Me and Fabian started getting kind of close, but not thaaat close.
A year passed and they broke up because he became really cold with her and suddenly lost feelings. I really tried to help my friend Ayleen, but Fabian was my friend too, so I made it clear to both of them that I was there for them (separately, obviously).
After the breakup, Fabian and I started texting a lot, and we got really close. An important detail here is that he graduated before us and went to university. But one teacher really loved him and his work, so he would often call Fabian to come help at our school. Well, the thing is that he started showing up every Friday, and that made us get even closer than before.
One day, he texted me saying that he wrote a song for me. (He's a musician.) I was really happy about it, but then I heard the lyrics... omg.
It was really... really weird. It was about liking a girl but knowing you both couldn't be together. Some details in the song mentioned "Friday noon"... weird. It also talked about "having so much fun and laughing together" and stuff like that. I let it slide.
But then he wrote ANOTHER SONG. And I'm not joking, this one was even worse.
Another important detail is that I have a boyfriend, and he knows that.
One day when he showed up at our school, I had some free periods and he was free too, so he said (while we were talking with some friends btw and having a great time), "Hey... since we're both free, we should... you know," and gestured between the two of us.
The friends next to us gave us an "oh." look and acted a little uncomfortable. Honestly, I was uncomfortable too.
I said, "What?" and he said, "You know what," and I just acted like I understood and nodded.
Well, he took me to one of the music rooms (I'm a musician too) so we could be by ourselves. On the way there, the janitor — who is really friendly and jokes around with everyone — said, "What are you guys doing in that room all alone, huh?" and laughed.
I tried to play it cool and deny it, but Fabian just laughed and nodded.
We got to the music room with the piano, and he started joking about the "what are you guys doing" comment, and I got a little uncomfortable. I brushed it off and just chuckled.
Turns out he wanted to practice the song he wrote with me because it was a duet. We practiced for a little while and then IT happened.
He wrote another song.
But this time it was even worse.
It talked about liking someone, but that person had a boyfriend, so you couldn't show your feelings for them.
It felt weird. I don't know how to explain it, but I felt like it was about me.
I don't want to sound like one of those pick-me girls who think everything is about them, but... do you guys think it was?
I really need some feedback on this because I don't know if I should start taking some distance from this man or not.
Also, something I forgot to mention is that I talked to him about it and he denied it, but then he said something weird. He told me he knew I was "imperfectly perfect" and the most beautiful woman (inside and out), but that I deserved better than him and that he couldn't provide what I needed right now...?
I mean, I don't even know what he was talking about.
But after that, he kept inviting me to hang out alone with him.
I really appreciate having this man in my life, but I need to know what is going on.
Help 😭