What pisses me off the most...
Besides how repulsive this whole idea is to actually emotional secure people who have "done their work," it's this emotionally abusive concept, whether spoken or unspoken, that anyone who disagrees and isn't open to it just isn't emotionally mature enough for "free love."
Love isn't exploitative, true love is capable of actual loyalty. Needing multiple partners to me screams insecure attachment issues.
No shade for people dealing with those, so was I, but after becoming truly emotionally mature I want more for myself than someone who needs the freedom to betray me without feeling bad about it. That's not love that is harm dressed up as love.
If a poly person can admit how utterly traumatized they are, and how utterly incapable of being content secure and loyal with one person, then I can empathize with that. But stop acting like your toxic lifestyle is healthy and trying to justify it by putting everyone else beneath you when it's you who lacks emotional maturity. So did I, once...just sayin.
I respect myself far too much to be one option in someone's repertoire. I deserve so much more and so do you! I think these people fundamentally lack respect for themselves, as well as the others they are using. Again, I was like that once which is why I call BS.
It's not a lifestyle it's a fetish, kink, and most participants operate like cult members trying to recruit with emotional blackmail.