stop telling dudes to stop being alt.
im transmasc & have been out for 7 years. passed most of my transition, and usually while not on T. im saying this both from that position & as someone whose in the punk scene where i live: being alt, having dyed hair, having piercings, or having jewelry, or whatever else yall will say doesnt stop ppl from passing.
maybe if you live in a christian conservative town with less than 1000 ppl, yeah sure, i can see it. however most ppl posting on here are living in cities as a statistical fact, which means there are plenty of alt ppl, which means that there are ALT CIS MEN. most of which arent being mistaken as women.
the issue 99% of the time ive seen both on here & irl is one of the following:
- slouching
- loose clothing and/or thin fabric
- jeans/pants arent straight fit. are usually either too big or too skinny
- piercing set up itself is feminizing
or they pass fine, and likely arent passing bc they havent done social transition steps we cant see (voice training, male body language, general guyisms) and THATS WHY.
ITS NEVER BC THEYRE ALT. this advice fucking sucks, and yall need to stop giving it. yall will be getting my downvote everytime. make it end.