r/transmanlifehacks

im a couple months on testosterone, but i kept at voice training anyway - though i fear it still reads as female

Ho 29 anni e sono un ragazzo ftm

I change my hair a lot. What fits my ever-changing aesthetic? more asking for fun than anything, but sometimes I wonder if I picked the right name. Soooo doubtful, but I'm curious if anyone will guess the name I go by!

ive got 2 parts to this question actually

1. what would you assume my name is

2. any unique name suggestions? (i have a hyphenated deadname, feels weird to go from smth cool to barry or smth 😭)

starting a new journey, also headed towards my 30s. if you had to name me based on the vibe i’m giving, what would you choose and why? thanks in advance!

I know I probably don’t pass well, but I don’t have access to T. So I’m just asking for overall tips to make it sorta seem like I’m going through male puberty.(dont have ac to T)

edit: the dress was a joke and my little cousin painted my nails.

Hey! Thinking of changing my name again.. my current name doesn't fit and I want to choose a new one. Help me out! What do you think?

i have met quite a few people who thought i was a cis dude, quite a few people who mistake me for a girl first glance, and a lot a lot of people who have to ask my friends what i am. so im just confused at where im passing. i know im alt and present adrognyously, cuz im a little more non binary but i wanna be seen as like boy first and that second.

saw someone else do this and wanted to see for myself

3 months august 13th (first week of .4 / 200mg bots)

Im insecure of my stature and Jaw line . My neck is skinny. I just feel like my neck and jawline throws off any passing I think I have and I cant stand it. I know everyone says "be patient trust the process." I cant help but think/know everyone else sees it too. Like I have a girly head.

I feel like people just blow my head up to make me feel better about myself then turn around and say poor guy.

Ill be feeling great all day come home and look in the mirror like goddamn have I looked this way all day?? Im not as half as big as I feel I am. And worse the kid boys 6-11 socialize like im their age "how old are you?" (At first. I pass with them since they are still young, using he/him etc) And just playing around. Like im their friend or brother or something. I set boundaries of course, but even no teenage boy in the building I work in gets bothered as much as me, (given they dont WORK there) is it cause im short and look like a kid their age? Cause im nicer to them? Not as tall or intimidating so they feel more comfortable to socialize with me? I hate being compared to some kid in size but maturity wise ive been told I seem older. And everyone is surprised im 28. I usually avoid even TELLING my age. I just feel so frustrated with myself. I feel like people/girls dont even take me seriously. I look like I could be their kid.

Take this into account Im all for kids and everything but I usually have to tell them Im working right now (kitchen server in a cafeteria) I have friendships with their mom and even the moms flirt with me so maybe im just popular socially?? They call me their kids step daddy. Etc I just feel I have nothing cool or goated to say so trying to banter and socialize just leaves me feeling stupid, drained, and frustrated.

I want to give a strong man impression. Not someone to just play games with all day. Given I have to be friendly to serve and not off put the entire dinner session with a stone face. Everyone has their eyes on my like Hawks asking if im ok when im not bubbly or socializing.

Im trying to find balance here and im struggling and feel like being a straight asshole just to get out of socializing.

Maybe im just being hard on myself. I just feel im lacking Jawline and social skills. Some tweaker lady on the street was thinking out loud when she saw me yesterday saying is that a girl or a boy? Then followed me and my friends staring at me IN my face at the crosswalk stop. Hard fkin Sigh*. Please lmk what you think

Thanks for reading this rant I know you have 100 things you could be doing bros

(Last photo pre any facial hair)

I'm 18 and about to start university in a month. I tried coming out to my parents and they weren't necessarily against me being trans but strongly wanted me to be sure (I am sure) before starting T. I was at least able to finally cut my hair short and it's definitely helped a lot. I'm only 5'2 though and try wearing platformed shoes but it can only help so much. I've been voice training for a few months on my own now and gotten pretty good, slowly trying to start using it in public too. I've been told my face is pretty androgynous so I'm also incredibly lucky there. I don't feel fully comfortable posting it on here and know that can make it harder to give advice. I'm more looking at it from a style standpoint for passing, as well as if the haircut helps.

Just looking for any tips or advice! Also, still looking for a new name so open to suggestions!

I only ever wear my contacts for occasions like prom. Should I wear them more often? I find that smaller frames look kind of strange on me. I know I have a leaner frame; I have an eating disorder and it makes things more difficult, but I am trying to get into working out more. Any ideas?

(Prom pics are most recent, I don’t have a lot of photos of myself)

Edit: guys if i was passing i wouldn’t be posting this here, i get misgendered almost regularly.

Do I pass? And how do I pass better? Obviously I know that the first two photos the makeup makes me more fem but I wanted to have a little fun bc k was at the ren fair LOL any advice is appreciated:) I’ve only been on T for about a month know I think

I go to the gym regularly, I workout my chest and arms mostly, I am 5'4 and 130lbs, I just got my eyebrow pierced which I think is a more masculine piercing? Idk but any tips would be great

I enjoy cropping my shirts because the way that long shirts sit on my hips makes me feel dysphoric. However, I feel like it also brings attention to my hips? Any tips on what to wear? This is especially for the gym but all clothing tips are welcome. I’m currently working on building my upper body, which is slowly happening- yay!

Also- does anyone have any experience navigating locker rooms at gyms? I don’t feel anywhere near passing enough to use the men’s safely, but I definitely try to be as invisible as possible in the women’s locker room.

I’m trans masculine, have had top surgery, and almost 6 months of low dose t.