u/Round_Essay_8179

Thought it’d be important to give all our honours to the best GCSE grade out there

So on this sub, there’s a common grade 9 culture which I’m pretty sure we’re all aware about. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with getting 9s as you’ve worked hard and you deserve those grades (well done btw), but I’ve noticed that the grade 9 culture can be arrogant and toxic sometimes (not saying this applies to everyone as the majority of people on this sub are nice regardless of their grades). Adding onto the grade 9 culture, I’ve noticed that if people on this sub get worried/open up about getting lower grades (especially in STEM), people easily get judged or told they’re stupid etc. I’ve seen people on this sub getting worried about this, especially in regard to discussing/posting their results on results day. Therefore i wanted to let you guys know in advance; on results day, please do NOT judge those who discuss/post about their lower grades. I know that some people get low grades because they didn’t work hard, but others genuinely did work hard and would already be feeling very upset before they even come on here, so don’t be rude etc, especially because you don’t know their situation unless the OP explicitly says what happened.

Sorry if it’s too early to say this, but i didn’t want to make this post too late because it’s important that we know to respect each other regardless of what grades we receive.

Sorry if this isn’t a particularly helpful post, I’m just curious.

In 6 days, i (16F) have my yr11 prom. Lots of my friends are going and i want to enjoy the event and spend time with them, especially because some of my close friends are leaving - however, i have a fake friend that’s going. I really want to spend the evening with my true friends as prom is such a special occasion. However, the fake friend i mentioned doesn’t have many friends at my school, and she’s going to prom. She sent me a text saying that she’s going to prom alone and that ‘we can hang out together’. This made me more anxious about prom. I remember once she followed me and my friendship group to the local park after our leaver’s day, and she was moaning to me; ‘they didn’t invite me’, etc. Kinda acting like she’s the victim in a way. At the park, until she finally left and went home, she was milking my attention from my true friends in order to get me to hang out with her instead, which meant that i couldn’t socialise with them as much.

I kinda feel bad because i don’t want to appear horrible and rude by making it obvious that i’m airing/ignoring her at prom, but i want to enjoy the evening and not be forced to socialise with someone I’m not true friends with. Also it would be even worse not to hang out with my true friends just bc of some girl - especially bc my friendship group doesn’t like her either for the same reasons as me but i won’t go into loads of detail. How do i avoid her and focus on speaking to my true friends without seeming like an asshole? (I don’t mind talking to her a tiny bit but i don’t want her forcing me to spend the whole evening chatting to her)

Context: she’s leaving school and going to college so I’ll probably never see her again after the prom. (I might occasionally spot her in town or something but we probably won’t socialise properly again after the event)

Let me know if you guys have any advice. I hope this post makes sense!