u/Royal_Discipline2537

I don’t really know if I’m the bad guy here, so I wanted to hear what other people think.

Back in 2023, I met a girl and developed feelings for her. I was genuinely serious about her. For almost a year, I kept trying because I thought maybe she just needed time.

Every time I brought up the possibility of a relationship, she’d tell me she wasn’t ready. She always said she appreciated me, valued my company, and didn’t want to lose me, but she wasn’t ready to date anyone.

Eventually, after almost a year, I stopped asking. I accepted that it wasn’t going to happen. We stayed friends, but we barely talked after that. We’d only text once every couple of months just to ask how life was going.

Fast forward to around February or March this year (2026), we started talking regularly again. That’s when something unexpected happened.

She told me she had started developing feelings for me.

The problem is… I don’t feel the same anymore.

Spending almost a year hoping for something that never happened changed me. Somewhere along the way, I let go of those feelings because I had to move on. It’s been almost 3 years since I first liked her, and now when I look at her, I don’t see her romantically anymore. I honestly see her as one of my closest friends—probably my best friend.

I wish this had happened back then because I know I would’ve said yes without thinking twice.

Now I feel guilty because the roles have completely reversed. She wants something that I wanted for so long, but I just can’t force myself to feel the same way anymore.

I’m still single, and it’s not because I found someone else. After spending almost a year hoping for something that never happened, I feel like I lost that side of me. I don’t have romantic feelings for her anymore—or for anyone else. Right now, I just don’t feel interested in love or relationships.

Has anyone else experienced this? Is it normal for feelings to completely disappear after waiting too long? And if you’ve been in a similar situation, what did you do?

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