So, I just finished listening to/reading the Shadow and Bone trilogy. I have some opinions that I’d like to know if anyone shares.
I hate Mal.
I hate the ending. (>!Mostly just the fact that she ends up with Mal!<).
Good series all in all though
I (22enby audhd) have some friends who are dating (21F and 25M both autistic). Let’s call them Ava and Jack. He has a friend (22M autistic) who has BPD. Let’s call him Kevin. Kevin has a lot of traumatic experiences, including an abusive ex gf. Let’s call her Amy. Kevin broke up with Amy about a year ago and subsequently got kicked out. He reached out to Jack and asks if he can stay with him. Jack lives with his parents. Kevin spends the night with him a few nights. Jack introduces me to Kevin. Jack’s mom says Kevin is no longer allowed in her house. (She thinks he brought bedbugs or some shit). I offer for Kevin to spend the night at my place, if he needs it. Kevin gets his own apartment. Kevin has non-epileptic seizures. It’s a whole thing. At the time, Jack and I were very involved in a community theatre. We convinced Kevin to do the summer musical with us, as we thought it would be good for him to have some socialization outside of work. This is when Ava enters the story. None of us had ever met Ava. She was in the musical with us. Jack was going through some dating stuff. And Kevin had a crush on Ava. Ava and Kevin start going out for a bit. During this time, Kevin gets really suicidal and stuff. Jack, Ava, and I all try to help him out, but he kept pushing us away. It kept getting worse and eventually he dumped Ava and went back to his abusive ex Amy. Amy makes him block Ava and I on everything. For some reason she allows him to stay in contact with Jack. It’s now like November.
After all of this, Jack and Ava get together, and have been for almost 6 months now. A few weeks ago, Kevin reached out to me and apologized for everything that happened last year. Jack tells me that Kevin and Amy are fighting again, and that Kevin needs to get out. Apparently Ava is back in contact with Kevin as well.
Last week, Kevin’s car got repossessed. He called Ava at like 4am, asking if she could take him to work. She then calls me asking me if I could pick him up from work. I told her to just let me take him to work because I live closer to him and his work. So, I pick him up and take him to work. I also let him spend the night at my place. I then take him to get a used car the next day after work. We then go back to my place and meet Jack and Ava there. We talk about finding him a new place to live because he’s about to get kicked out again. He says he won’t be going back to his ex be cause he’s learned his lesson this time.
So, he’s currently staying at my place, and he is so irritating. When he gets back from work he just turns on the tv and watches YouTube. He leaves it on while he sleeps (granted, with the volume down quite a bit). He doesn’t eat well. He doesn’t take advice even when he asks for it. He’s extremely anti-confrontational. So, whenever I bring up something that he needs to do differently, he just shuts down (oftentimes leading to a seizure). And he won’t talk to anyone but Ava or Jack afterwards. He’s still fairly suicidal.
Jack and Ava have come over every day this week, and they just sit with him and watch YouTube in my living room after work. (It’s getting very annoying).
Ava is moving out of her parents’ house next month, and she has offered Kevin to stay with her in her room in her new apartment once she moves in. Jack apparently doesn’t mind this?
Kevin just seems very, very attached to Ava. And I’m really concerned that he might be getting too attached. And that he might end up hurting her. Jack and Ava are my two closest friends. And I don’t want to see them get hurt.
What should I do? I’m trying my best to be kind but firm with my boundaries with Kevin, and I’m trying to give my friends good advice.