Minor rant but wanted thoughts
Hello,
So I've begun to look into either fostering or potentially adopting... I grew up in a household with my parents there physically, just not mentally and I want to give a child a set of parents that are there for them 100% of the time. I was always sat in front of a television either watching movies or some kinda show, or playing my video games.
As a boy, that was on one hand very nice cause I had literally any gaming system I wanted as an only child... On the other hand it would have been nice if one of my parents feigned an interest in what I was doing.
I had to move back in with my mother temporarily due to a poor living situation and with that, continued lack of interest in spending time with me, and some therapy and working through my emotions realized that what I'm missing is my own family. I'm now in a much better living situation, working like crazy though but trying to get out of my current employer because it's affecting my mental health greatly.
My family is kinda absent for the most part (though I talk to my godmother a little bit), my wife's family is kinda absent from her life too... I can't have my own either, as I've gotten myself examined and after the deposit found that there were issues (to put it as PG as possible).
For adoption in the state of PA, there's classes you have to take from what I understand, I gotta talk to someone more about that... But considering I have some back issues that slow me down a little from a prior car accident would like to adopt a little bit older of a child - not too old, like 13-14. Is that outlandish thinking?
Even if I was able to have my own, I'd rather be able to give a child that's already here a loving and stable home with parents who care as opposed to just plopping them in front of a TV or computer and saying have fun! Curious to talk about this more and hear input from others, good or bad...