How can I help my girlfriend heal after my pornography addiction?
My girlfriend found out about my pornography addiction, and I know it deeply hurt and betrayed her. I’m taking responsibility and actively working on my recovery.
She recently moved to NZ, and we’re now long distance. She told me, “I wish I could trust and love you again. I’m willing to love you, but I don’t trust what you’ll be doing once we’re apart.”
I know trust takes time, and I’m not looking for a quick fix. I just want to understand how I can best support her while she heals.
For those who’ve been in a similar situation, what helped rebuild trust? When painful memories came back, what did your partner do that made you feel emotionally safe instead of making things worse?
I’d really appreciate any advice, especially from people who have experienced this from either side.