AITK for wanting to message a married guy’s wife after he tracked me down and hit on me?
I’m feeling incredibly shaken and honestly a bit depressed after an encounter yesterday.
Back in 2018, I matched with a guy on Tinder. We never had a real conversation, but we swapped info. I realized quickly he wasn't someone I wanted to know, so I blocked him on everything—phone, socials, the works. I haven't thought about him in years.
Fast forward to yesterday (July 2026). I was running errands in my neighborhood,when I got a call from a random number. It was him. He had spotted me in public, recognized me, and used a new number to bypass my blocks. He had the audacity to ask me on a date.
When I told him I am committed, he was incredibly rude about it.
I did some digging afterward and found his Instagram. He and his wife have a joint account where they post everything—from their wedding to their honeymoon in Thailand. It’s all "couple goals" and public displays of affection. Knowing that he is actively hunting down women from his past to ask for dates while maintaining this curated, happy marriage online makes my skin crawl.
So, AITK if I reach out to his wife and show her what her "so-called" husband is doing behind her back? Or should I just stay out of it to protect my own peace and safety?
TL;DR: A guy I blocked 8 years ago spotted me in public, called me from a burner number to ask me on a date, despite having been married since Dec 2025. I want to message his wife to expose him. Am I the kameena?