u/Sad_Physics5500

The difference between say a doctor and someone without a college degree isn't a difference for capacity for learning or innate IQ.

First of all, people have different goals. So, not everyone is trying to become a doctor or go to college. But let's assume that was the case. Even then, factors such as opportunity for education, availability of support as a student, life choices, and general work ethic determine where people end up in life.

I am not saying that natural intelligence doesn't vary among people. All I am saying is that it's possible for a very intelligent person not to make it far in academics while someone with less natural intelligence can make it far in academics.

Overall, so many factors determine success in life. I just hate when people assume someone being a doctor and automatically conclude that they have above average intelligence and that's why they've become a doctor. That's extremely dismissive of the insane amount of of work ethic it takes to become a doctor. I do believe that you need at least an average level of intelligence to become a doctor, but the rest is about desire and hard work.

Note. People also confuse being informed/educated with natural intelligence. Knowledgeable isn't inherently more intelligent. But someone having more demonstrated knowledge than you is still a valid thing. So, I am not making this post to tell you to blindly argue with someone who is an expert at something than you are.

Height is one of those things that nobody can control. None of us chose whatever height we have. In a world where being short is looked down upon, it's understandable when a short person gets mad after being teased about their height.

Comments like "short king" would absolutely piss me off if I was short. Especially since the "short king" comment is thrown at men who are objectively/statistically average in height.

Overall, I don't care about the context or who is making the comment. It's very understandable to be extremely angry for being called short. Obviously it's okay to be short, but teasing others for something they're born with is low IQ behavior, even making fun of someone for being "too tall". But we know that being tall is celebrated, that's why I focused on the being short part.

More often than not, you will meet a cop who is just trying to do their job and won't let their emotions or ego get the best of them. However, there are enough who let their egos and emotions get the best of them and all it takes is you having an incident with them on your unlucky day. It could be a simple traffic stop or anything. So, the whole "I will never commit a crime" response (I feel it coming) may not save you.

When it happens, it doesn't even matter what your rights are or whether or not that you have broken the law. If you didn't stroke their ego the right way, they will go on a power trip. Unfortunately, you will be on the losing side if you try to meet their energy.

All of this is to say that I understand why people don't trust the police even though I am a pro law and order person myself. If you experience one terrible cop, it will be extremely hard not to have hatred against all cops.

I have only had positive experience with cops, but have seen enough from the experiences of others that there are cops out there who abuse their powers.

I am neither Israeli nor a Palestinian, but I understand that the issue between them is complex and both sides have done their fair share of wrong things. I am not going to pretend that Palestinians are just innocent victims. Obviously, many people from both sides are going to be innocent victims to whatever a certain group from their side does. However, there's always a culprit when we talk about the issue in a generalized manner.

I know the Israel vs. Palestine issue goes back many years. However, the recent intense escalation was due to October 7th. We can't deny that. We can't sit here and pretend that what happened on October 7th is perfectly acceptable.

What I dislike about pro Palestinian people is that they never condemn anything from the Palestinians. In their minds, Palestinians are always innocent victims. This is clearly biased on their part.

For western pro Palestine people, typically left leaning people, are a little crazy to support the very people who won't hesitate to kill them for whatever identity they may have. I am not saying that they shouldn't care about the humanitarian side of things, but it's baffling that they defend these people at all costs and pretend that they are saints.

If you are frequently sharing stuff about your private life (sympathy farming sometimes) or obsessively and frequently share your opinion on a few topics, you got some problems. You are either feeling very lonely, depressed, lonely and depressed, narcissistic, or dumb. Or all of those things at once.

I understand that social media is meant for sharing things, but just because the platform allows you to share certain things, it doesn't mean you should share them. It's easy to use social media platforms responsibly.

I don't mean to mock the type of people I just described, I just feel bad for them. I think they need serious help and find meaning in life so they don't constantly seek validation for the most miniscule things.

We need to take social media addiction as a serious public health threat. Because of it, many people are living life just so they can post about it on social media, rather than living life in a manner that's healthy for their mental health. The current generation is full of vapid people who have no personality and can't even go on a walk without their eyes being glued to their phones.

Note . I am specifically talking about the people who use not so anonymous social media and post their mental unstablity for the world to see.

If you date an overweight or obese person, it's highly likely that they will stay that way forever. Sure, they will tell you that they have been trying to lose weight and want to lose weight etc. They may even workout with you and so on. However, they likely won't pursue that goal seriously until they get their feelings hurt and wake up to reality. Often times, what fixes such people is their partner leaving them because of their weight, unfortunately.

If you have kids with such a partner, you have to work extra hard so they don't make your kids obese as well by instilling in them unhealthy habits. It is just not worth the trouble.

Some people won't date obese people not for lack of attraction, but for the deeper issues and the consequences that follow, as listed previously. It's more than "hey, this person looks fat." It's the personality and lifestyle that comes with it. Their lack of accountability is beyond infuriating.

I keep hearing bitter people who say that a man who is 40+ should only be with older women. I say how about you let him decide based on what he wants out of the relationship?

If he just wants partnership, he will probably be okay with dating within his age group. If he wants to start a family, then he may date women in their 20s and early 30s. In either case, I don't see the issue.

I have personally limited my dating pool to those who are very close to my age, but that's because I am also young and can get the things I want from my age group.

In a hypothetical scenario that I was 40+, no kids, and wanted to have kids, I bet you that I would probably go for the 25-35 age group.

The people who get extremely offended by these posts are probably people who are struggling to find people to date within their age group (likely older or younger of the opposite sex). So, they act entitled and expect you to settle for dating them. Dating them isn't inherently settling, but it is if it doesn't align with your relationship goals.

There are certain people who just make everything personal and make the overall internet experience unenjoyable. Whatever their reasoning is, they clearly got too much time on their hands and are most likely fishing for likes.

They know how to say trendy things by distracting from the original idea of the post because they know what gets them validation from the reddit crowd. If you stick to certain talking points and make assumptions about the poster, it pleases the reddit crowd so they get the likes they desperately crave.

It doesn't matter whether what you say is factual or relevant. As long as you villify the OP and pretend to have the higher moral ground, you get the validation you crave through likes. Because we live in a society where whatever you say about others must be true, especially if you paint yourself as a saint by taking specific sides.

This issues extends to broader issues in society. Bad mouth anybody, pretend like you are the good guy, then the person you badmouthed is guilty of whatever you claim they are guilty of. We live in very scary times where common sense isn't so common anymore. It's always about who can get offended the most and tarnish the reputation of another person by playing victim.

If your family or friend(s) take issue with whoever you are romantically involved with for shallow reasons, you should always take the side of your romantic partner. A good family or friend should always be accepting of your romantic partners as long as they treat you right. That's it. That's all that matters.

You have the right to date any consenting adult who treats you well regardless of their culture, looks, views etc. You are not obligated to be an extension of your family or friends.

In short, family and friend opinions don't matter on who you date. If they have problems with it, they have the right to no longer associate with you.

Videos of trained female fighters beating up dudes are extremely misleading. First of all, none of this videos show a straight up fair fight. You only see the following scenarios:

1. The guy is mainly allowed to defend or has to not go hard if attacking (although they won't admit that to the viewers) and the fight is typically a grappling match where the trained female can succeed.

2. The guy is completely unrepresentative of the average male due to his smaller size and lack of athletism.

Another thing is that people like to talk about some random female beating up some random male. In this scenarios, people are failing to recognize (maybe intentionally) that what's happening is that the female is just taking the first shot at a male who didn't see it coming (I think a sucker punch) or the male is intoxicated. That's not a fight scenario. That's just cowardly attacking someone who didn't know you were going to hit them.

Let's take Rhonda Rousey for example. Any similarly sized athletic guy you can find from a random high school who understands how to throw a punch and can kick can win against her in a stand up fight. He could lose if it goes to the ground though.

People have always protested inventions that made humans more efficient with their work. I am sure people have complained about the use of the calculator, computer, cars etc. The list goes on. I understand that we all should develop the basic skills before moving on to technology that makes our work faster. However, it doesn't mean we should condemn such technologies regardless of context.

AI is beneficial to students. It can explain and guide them a lot through their work. Now, am I saying that students should just let AI do all the work without understanding and claim it as their work? Absolutely not! I am just saying that a responsible use of AI should be encouraged because it will make students way more knowledgeable than they would ever have been without it.

It's our nature to collectively oppose every latest invention, but the benefits of AI will be seen in the near future and people will learn that there's nothing to fear about AI.

Just because you happen to be born into a specific culture, it doesn't mean you are obligated to embrace it. If you dislike your culture because it doesn't align with your own values, that's a valid enough reason to not embrace the said culture. None of us chose what country, culture, or parents we have.

The whole push to be "patriotic " is very short-sighted. People deciding to be tribalistic just because they randomly ended up being born in a specific geographic location determined by borders drawn by humans is silly.

In short, cultures are only as meaningful as you make them. If they're toxic, you can just as easily embrace a different culture that's more positive or even create it.

To conclude, a very cultured society isn't necessarily a better society. In fact, very cultured places are just backward places that are still lagging in terms of civilization.

Note: I am talking about individual choices. I am not advocating for disliking certain cultures. I am just saying that we need to stop obsessing about cultures. Objectively speaking, they are products of our imaginations and experiences and are not based on what's objectively good or not.

Children are the greatest gift any one can experience. At a certain point in life, we stop living for ourselves and find a different purpose. For example, once a person reaches a certain age where they feel like they have done it all and seen it all, they look for a different purpose. For example, once you reach your forties or so as a man, adding children to your life gives you more purpose to keep going. That's not to say you shouldn't have kids before that, it's just an example. It all depends on where you are in life. Same concept applies to women, but their fertility window is shorter, so they will have more fulfillment if they make sure that they start a family earlier in life.

I love sharing this perspective because the current anti family rethoric by certain groups of society needs to be opposed. We have reached a point of trying to make life feel as purpose less as possible so people continue to be depressed, hopeless and so on.

This is unpopular and probably sounds like a novel concept to the views of the current generation because we have become to believe that having money and treating yourself is the source of fulfillment, it's far from it.

I am not saying that people should have children when they are not ready, but not having children because they will require sacrifice is just incredibly selfish. You are not enlightened. You are not modern or whatever. You are just incredibly short-sighted and selfish.

There's no point to having a lot of money than you can realistically use when you get older. Older with money only doesn't sound very fulfilling.

I know that the type of audience on reddit likes to pretend to be super enlightened and doesn't care about family or keeping your genes going. But that's a very valuable thing to do. If I have to explain it to you why it's important, then it's not worth having the conversation because you will just argue with anything I say.

Also, people may not be able to have kids for variety of reasons. I am not talking about those. I am generally talking about people who are able to have kids.

I was fortunate enough to escape the country at a young age and live in the west (not claiming the west is perfect). I have my moments of nostalgia, which makes me want to remember the old times and perhaps visit the country at some point. However, every time I see stuff on social media and my limited in person interactions with other Ethiopians, it reminds me of the extreme conservative nature of the country. The extreme obsession with religion and the inability of many to respect other people's privacy, which is extremely off putting.

I am always torn between completely forgetting everything about the country and remembering some of the good things I like about it since it's part of me after all. I know that the country will become truly secular over time, but it can be a lot to handle right now. I just want the country to be a more peaceful country where people just focus on living their lives without trying to dictate everything that isn't their business.

I have reached a point where I can't have a functioning relationship with many Ethiopian people I meet because religion, conservativism, and not minding one's business are going to be the core components of the relationship I have with them.

It's only bad if you let it stop you from giving people a chance. However, it's not a bad thing if you do it for the sake of being a little more cautious. People present themselves a certain way because that's who they are. Nobody presents themselves a certain way by accident.

Not being careful around something that appears to be dangerous (even appearance wise), could be very costly. Willing to be a little "judgmental " may save your life.

Stuff like this makes someone dependent on having a social circle and possibly being an extrovert to be successful regardless of other important qualities they may have. Not to mention that references always praise and exagerrate the applicant anyways.

If you are someone starting in a new path in life and just want to do your thing in life, the system still makes you beg people that you don't want to talk to. Worst part is that not many of these people recognize that it's their professional duty to write references, assuming they are familiar with you.

If people don't realize it's professional duty and treat it as if they are doing you a favor because you begged them, it puts many people at a disadvantage and puts their career future in the hands of other people.

Obviously, those who benefit from this and are people pleasers are going to disagree with this because they don't see the obstacle this creates for an otherwise talented person who just happens to have less social circle, is new to the area/country, or is just an introverted person.

There are already background checks to weed out certain people. That should be enough. Let the resume and the interview do the rest of the work.

I am not expecting everyone to have children or to want to have children. Some people can't have children and that's fine. Others, don't want to have them, which is weird, but still okay. However, what I don't understand is those who push their anti having children mentality on others and pretend to have the higher moral ground.

These people also expect people to be okay with adopting as opposed to having their own kids. Kudos to people who adopt, but it's not as fulfilling for everyone.

Overall, having children is a very important aspect of humanity. We shouldn't preach against it. Obviously people who can't provide decent living for their children shouldn't be forced to have them, but that's a separate conversation. To pretend it isn't, is disingenuous.

In the past, hip hop used to be real music. Currently, it's the same redundant stuff that just glorifies violence. Not only that, it also glorifies misogyny, hatred towards law and order and so on.

The sad part is that I would be considered the bad guy for this post. The problem with the USA is that we make what shouldn't be controversial, controversial. We should all agree that it's not cool to sing about hurting others and degrading others. I am intentionally soft with my language here.

The people who get offended by this opinion are the enablers. They are the reason why we can't get rid of this violence based mentality. Unfortunately, we are more interested in silencing those who call out the toxicity of hip hop more than we are interested in keeping communities safe.

Most people have no concept of build up play. All they do is play through balls and/or just run with the ball. It's beyond infuriating for the match to be competitive when all your opponent is doing is just holding the sprint button the whole time and playing through balls without any loss of stamina.

It's the same story without the ball. Your opponent presses you to death all game without loss of stamina. Any attempt to actually do buildup play will require EXTREME focus because any imperfection means that your opponent intercepting the pass. Sometimes, the ball will just go to your opponent even if you did everything right. It's difficult to play more than one or two games at a time because lack of control over how your players behave is infuriating.