We found disturbing comments our dad left on girls social media pages. What are we supposed to do with this now?
For context my Dad is M65. He has three children myself F28, Son M31 and daughter F35.
My mother and father divorced 16 years ago. After his affair with a woman he met on a trip to Thailand. She is 14 years younger than him. He ended up moving her to his country and they got married and have been together since.
My sister had called me the other day and shared that she had received a notification on Instagram about something our dad had sheared on IG threads.
She could only see part of the comment and it sounded off. But it peeked her curiosity. Our Dad had unintentionally reposted and shared a young women’s Instagram post. And he made some inappropriate comment on it.
My sister saw a few accidental repost like this then realized she could also see his comment history. Even though she was already feeling a bit disturbed she kept digging. Going through the comments that went back a few years. He has been commenting really gross and creepy comments on young women’s IGs. These comments consisted “I want to hold you tight”, “booby massage”, “come to my country, I’m all yours”, “I’m a young 65”, “your beautiful”, with all the hearts and heart eye imagoes you can imagine.
You get the picture….
But what makes this worse. Not just that he is married. Clearly hadn’t stopped him before and hasn’t learnt his lesson. But these women are young 20s!
Just to put it into perspective, this man was at least 45 years old when these girls were born and he commenting on their posts like he is trying to line up a new wife. A wife that is younger than his youngest daughter.
My sister and I are so disturbed and it just continues to validate how much he messed us up as kids thinking our only value as a woman is how we look. Constantly being criticized on our appearance. And hearing him always comment on strangers body’s. That’s another whole issue.
But now we have seen this. What are we supposed to do? Do we leave it alone? Do we confront him about it? Do we tell his wife? Should we distance ourselves? (We both already have a pretty distant and strained relationship with him.)
What is the right thing to do in this situation?