OA ba na umiyak ako sa kung paano ako kinausap ni partner noong Mother’s Day?
Hi. I’m 25F, have a partner 31M with 1yo son.
I had the time to ask this kay partner about how his reaction made me cry during Mother’s Day celebration.
It’s only about the drinks I cancelled kase hindi na daw available yung isang ingredient sa drink, kaya I decided to cancel na lang since I’m good na sa tubig lang.
But then after I cancelled the order, we had a little argument about the drinks kase kaya pala ayaw nya ipa-cancel kase share pala kami kaya hindi na sya nag order ng drinks nya. That’s why I said na pwede naman syang um-order na lang ulit. But he refused and said a lot of things out of his frustration sa ginawa ko, like bakit daw hindi muna ako nag ask sa kanya before ipa-cancel, agad agad daw nag ccancel ng order (I’m the one who choose the drink and sya yung nag sabi ng order).
I realized na there was a miscommunication, pero what really made me cry is how he speaks to me, his tone of voice, his facial expressions na naiinis even nasa harap kami ng pagkain, while kasama yung family nya, while nakatingin sakin yung mother in law ng Kuya nya while paano nya ako kausapin during that time.
Hindi ko na lang napigilan tumalikod at doon umiyak, kase first time ko ma-experience na ganon kausapin kahit nasa harap ng pagkain at may ibang tao pa na nakatingin while he did that.
Napansin nya na umiiyak ako pero I remember na he asked why, and I said not exactly like this pero I point out na “nakatingin sakin yung mother in law ni kuya mo, tapos ganyan moko kausapin” pero I remember he said na mas pinapahiya ko daw sya sa ginagawa kong pag iyak, so I decided na lumabas muna with our son para doon mag palipas ng kung ano man nararamdaman ko that time.
Am I wrong sa ginawa ko? Please let me know. My parents never even talked to me the way he did. I know na we can’t control sometimes yung reaction natin pero, is it really uncontrollable?given na there’s a lot of factor to consider before we react? Sorry, I grew up with my tatay who chose to stay calm and never raised his voice sa mother ko or even sa amin, that’s why I need to ask din here if may naka experienced na like what I had with my partner.
Did share the convo na din, since want ni partner ng ibang insight. Don’t worry, I’m open if may sasabihin din si partner, I’ll edit this too after ko i-share, if want nya mag add/comment or what.
Thank you!
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