u/Same-Education-7026

I’m 27F and live with my dad and his best friend Jack 50M. These past months we were all watching The Pitt together. My dad is REALLY into the show and the fandom and he has strong opinions. I thought it would be FUN to watch it with him since he likes it, not stressful lol. Jack’s life passion and work is television so he’s always telling us to look at the background, lighting, and other visuals for context bc it’s all part of the story. It can be fun sometimes draining. The Pitt does some camera work that Jack thinks is really funny because it makes things obvious in retrospect.

So we were watching the episode 2.07 yesterday and there’s a scene with male and brown female characters where male one was shirtless. Jack was like “wait a second, I want to watch that again” and dad was already annoyed because he does not like the woman in the scene bc she’s the antagonist to his favorite character. But we replayed it and Jack was giddy talking about the lighting, framing, male character's biceps and triceps, and he said “This is a really well done scene, it almost feels invasive to watch.”

Dad got so upset about this and started saying that he’s reading too much into it and it doesn’t mean anything or it doesn’t mean what he thinks, and he just went on this incredible rant about it. He was really surprised by his reaction and said “I’m talking about what the scene itself is conveying” and “This is not the first scene with them where it feels like you’re entering a bubble and there's a recurring visual pattern” and Dad was like “you people are so weird you seriously lack media literacy if you think this means anything the male character is in love with main character you’re delusional” and said that the guy who created the show even said it’s weird bc he hates WOC. Jack said “You think I’m saying something I’m not, I’m talking about visual storytelling”

I told my dad he needed to calm the fuck down because calling someone who has literally worked in tv for years delusional and accusing them of lacking media literacy over talking about a SCENE in a show is crazy work. Dad got super pissed off at me for tleling him to calm down and told me that I don’t get it because people like Jack are ruining the show by undernalyzing it and trying to force something that isn’t there. And that just because Jack loves television doesn’t mean he’s right about what he sees. Mind you Jack doesn’t care about any of the stuff he thinks he’s implying. He looks at it like art and he’s mad about something else entirely.

Anyway I want to know am I the asshole for telling my dad to calm down? Bc I get that HE feels passionate about it too and he’s allowed to feel that way and act accordingly, it just felt like overkill.

BTW my dad is tall dark haired and has Jewish roots. Jack is jacked gray haired vet.