I’m 43 now, and I honestly think making money changed my relationship with risk more than it changed my lifestyle.
I live in Florida. Nothing extravagant. Same house I bought years ago, same daily routine, same circle of friends. If anything, my life probably looks more boring now than it did in my 30s.
Most people around me still think I’m just another guy working a normal corporate job.
A few years back, I started buying NVDA pretty aggressively during one of the ugly pullbacks when everyone suddenly became convinced tech was finished. At the time, it felt terrible. Every red day made me question whether I was averaging into a disaster.
I remember checking my account constantly and thinking maybe I was just another idiot getting sucked into hype.But I kept holding.
Not because I was confident all the time honestly I wasn’t. I just couldn’t shake the feeling that AI was going to end up much bigger than most people realized, even if the timing was messy.
Fast forward to now, and between NVDA, a few other semiconductor names, and boring index funds I’ve held forever, my net worth crossed a little over $5 million this year.
And here’s the strange part nobody really talks about:
I’m actually more stressed now than I was when I had way less money.
Back then, losing money hurt, but the stakes felt smaller because I was still trying to build something.
Now every big red day feels different psychologically. When your portfolio swings six figures in a week, you stop thinking about getting rich and start thinking about how easily life-changing money can disappear if you get too greedy.
I’ve noticed myself becoming way more defensive lately too.
Taking partial profits.
Keeping more cash than before.
Paying attention to sectors I used to completely ignore.
A younger version of me would probably call current me too cautious.
Maybe he’d be right.
What’s weird is that I still mentally feel like the same guy who used to celebrate hitting $100k invested for the first time. Meanwhile now there are days where my account moves more than my old annual salary before lunch.
Human beings really are terrible at adjusting psychologically to large amounts of money.
I’m genuinely curious how other people deal with this shift once the goal changes from making money to not screwing up what already changed your life.