When should I tell my sister (who’s trying with IVF) that we’re pregnant?
I am currently pregnant and my sister is in her first round of IVF. I’ve already decided I will tell her over text to avoid any pressure for a certain reaction from her and to give her and her husband time to process the news. Now I’m planning out WHEN to tell her, and here are my options:
- Before her embryo transfer (when I’m 7/8 weeks along)
- After her embryo transfer (during the 2-week waiting period for her to find out if she’s pregnant)
- After the 2-week period when they find out if they’re pregnant
- At my 12 week mark (this lines up shortly after she would have found out if she’s pregnant or not).
Ideally, I’d wait until after my first trimester to share the news with her, but (God forbid) this could be freshly after finding out devastating news for them. This being said, I think I need to tell her sooner. I think telling her before her embryo transfer (when I’m 7-8 weeks along) might work best because it will give her and her husband at least 2 weeks of processing our news before they get confirmation on whether or not they’re pregnant.
Anyone here either have experience with IVF or with telling someone you’re pregnant when they’re going through IVF and have any advice on best timing?
Thanks so much in advance. ❤️