r/January2027Bumpers

Hey Bumpers!

I’ve been pretty hesitant to get involved in this group. With my first pregnancy, resulting in a healthy boy, I made 3 really close friends via the bumpers group and still talk to them daily!

But I got pregnant again last fall and then had an MMC and D&C late in my first trimester. Leaving the bumper groups (I was due late June/early July), deleting the apps, etc was harder than I care to admit.

I’m looking to connect with others though whose current pregnancy is after a similar loss…. Specifically an MMC where your body was still very much trying to grow a non viable life. The anxiety during this waiting period is killing me 🥲 I’m so scared it’s going to happen again.

Edit - grammar

Chat here with fellow bumpers about whatever is currently on your mind!

I know it doesn’t really matter. Just kinda seems like January birthdays are lame hahaha, I know it’s somewhat out of our control but wanted to get your opinions? Do you like January for due date/ birthday? Talk me into liking it lol

My due date is 1/10

PRAYERS NEEDED! Long but please please read. I need support

I recently found out I was pregnant again, a total shock by the way! I am currently 4w5d and while I’m over the moon I’m also terrified. I carry a mutation for a “milder” form of muscular dystrophy that effects ONLY males that can range anywhere from being unaffected your entire life needing nothing at all to needing a wheelchair eventually at some point in adulthood anywhere from early adulthood to well later into life or even never and just needing other mobility devices. This disease ONLY affects males so any male I have has a 50% chance of having the deletion. I currently have two amazing, perfect sons who are thus far, by the grace of God completely unaffected and thanks to God science is finally finding medications that work at stopping progression for those who do start to get weakness ( one of the big drugs going for approval soon stopped progression all together for the entire 4 years so far the trial has been on going which is HUGE and fingers crossed that continues on into a full cure though no progression would basically be the same thing!!) obviously having 2 sons with the deletion I have met and talked to SO many men living with the same disease and every single one I’ve met has either a marriage, their own children, cool/great careers, travel, etc. whether they are a wheelchair user now as an adult or not.

I have been longing so badly for another child and longing for a daughter/sister for my boys. I have been trying to talk to my husband about ivf which can help avoid any further children being affected. My husband has been on the fence and really leaning towards not wanting a third (his feelings are fair) but, we are very fortunate in all aspects and can afford it easily. I however, absolutely LONG for another. To a point that it’s painful.

I told my husband yesterday about the baby because I needed a few days to sit with it alone. Now let me preface by saying he is an AMAZING Man, a loving husband, the best father, and a great provider. It sounded like he was leaning towards me terminating immediately due to the carrier status I have. He said this very gently but, that was the sounds of it. I understand not wanting to pass this on to another child knowingly (we didn’t know this at all until my youngest was born and we did random newborn screening) and I understand that BUT, there is still a 75% chance this baby wouldn’t have it at all and I just can’t. I want them so badly and I love this baby SO much already. If they are a female, they have a 50% chance of being a carrier (would never be effected since it only effects males) or a 50% chance of not being a carrier at all. If it’s a male they have a 50/50 shot of either having the deletion too or not at all. To me, that’s a huge chance they won’t. He is on the side that we had two boys and they did both end up with the deletion and while I completely understand that, I don’t think I’d ever been able to forgive myself and not think of the “what if it was a girl? What if it was a male that did not have the deletion?” For the rest of my life. I want to do an early gender test and then, if it is a male do the NIPT that will specifically be able to search for this deletion then go from there. My husband thinks the longer I go, the harder it will be and he’s right but, I also feel like that’s a pass straight to hell. I’m so terrified. This also feels like God heard my prayers and cries and yearning and gave this child to me and who am I to immediately “get rid of” them? That feels monstrous.

please, please pray for this child to be unaffected or a female. Please. I need so many prayers. I am so scared and hurting when I should be joyous.

I see posts about pregnancy announcements with family/friends. Has anyone thought about when or how they’ll be announcing to their workplace?

I work in a very male dominated field and everyone on my team are dudes. I’m not sure when or how I’ll break the news. Part of me is thinking about telling HR only, and not saying anything to anyone else unless they ask me. I could see how that could be awkward…but also feels awkward to just announce that I’m pregnant. Do guys at work even care?

Post about what you’re thankful for, pregnancy related or not!

I’m currently 5w4d

35 , first pregnancy with help of IUI

And I cannot stop worrying and stressing reading about complications.

Older mommas, how do you deal with the stress and regulate? No symptom days make me worried, since 5 weeks started the symptoms have been every other day, intermittently.

I am trying to remind myself that everything so far has been ok. Cramping has never been severe and no blood. I just gotta take it day by day but it’s hard to feel confident about it.

Thank you for letting me vent!

I have zero patience and when I saw you can find the gender at 6 weeks I “accidentally” clicked buy now. I’m 6 weeks today but might wait till I’m like mid 6 week just to be extra? Idk. Has anyone done one of these or planning to? I can’t be the only impatient one here. I’ve also had two losses and didn’t know what they were, I always wonder about it.

I’m 7 weeks pregnant today and have had HOT LAVA in my throat all day. To the point where it’s making me gag/vomit. I’m eating very bland foods so I don’t believe it’s diet related. This is my first so I really don’t know what to expect but I thought this happens much later in pregnancy?? I’ve been chewing on Tums but they really don’t help much. My first appointment is in 2 weeks so I’ll ask about medications but does anyone have any tips or tricks that have helped?

Anyone here very much aware of their lower belly?

It’s not pain or cramps, just a heaviness. I can’t explain better than this 🤷🏽‍♀️

5w6d

I'm still breastfeeding my 15-month old but my boobs / nipples have gotten sooo sore and it's really painful at the moment. I'm only about 6 weeks so I hope the soreness will ease with time?

Anyone else in the same boat? And what are your plans for the future - are you going to wean your toddlers before the new baby arrives or will you tandem feed? I always wanted to bf for the recommended two years but at this point I think I'll try weaning around 18 months...

I started getting sick so early this pregnancy, starting at week 4 - I’d say I’m borderline HG. I’m having major aversions to coffee, and the caffeine abstinence is making my morning sickness even worse. I’ve tried tea - English breakfast and it’s ok sometimes but I think the heat of it, is making it hard to drink. Iced coffee worked for a moment - but now I’m just raw dogging my insane life with severe exhaustion, headaches and nausea. Any recommendations?

so, I've gotta ask: is anyone else having trouble dealing with stress since finding out about their little one?

I'll be the first to admit, I've been a pretty moderate drinker for a few years now. nothing crazy, but like a glass of wine a night kinda girl, or a few beers when I'm out with the guys, that kinda thing. I'm also a mild social (weed) smoker, and the majority of my friends are the same. but it's like with the flip of a switch, I'm now the uptight one where there's nothing enjoyable for me to take the edge off anymore.

I'm currently 7w4d, I've known since 3w5d and the stress is building up because of work and my husband and I are also in the process of buying a house. I can't drink, smoke, go to any concerts, can't eat too much of things I normally love thanks to morning sickness, can't lift weights cause of how physical my job already is, can't do any of my usual rough-and-tumble activities because it'll stress out my body and risk baby too much. it just feels like there's no way to release all this pent up stress and energy I have! please tell me I'm not the only one struggling with this cause I feel at such a loss and for the life of me I can't think of anything truly healthy to replace my- albeit somewhat damaging- tendencies.

My husband and I are taking a long awaited vacation next week. We got married right before the start of the school year (I’m a teacher) and school ends this Friday so this is supposed to be our “honeymoon”. I will be 7.5-8.5 weeks during this trip. Rescheduling is not an option because we are also having major house projects done while we are gone that require us to be out.

Thankfully the flights are direct and short (2 hours) but I’m terrified that I’m going to be near stinky people or people with tons of cologne (major aversion right now).

As far as the trip activities, it was meant to be an urban exploration type trip but I feel like I’m not going to be able to do much except sit on benches.

How can I survive this trip, not be a total party-pooper, and still have fun?

Would anyone mind sharing their experience with normal fetal heart rate around 6+1 or 6+2? My midwife called me today and really freaked me out. I have been spotting on and off since the weekend (always dark brown and very small amounts, not even enough to need a liner), and when I got sent in for an ultrasound the tech said that things look good. HR was 116 bpm at 6+1 or 6+2, and baby is measuring on time. Everything I can find online says that's good, but midwife said that's low and is sending me to be followed weekly by an early pregnancy assessment unit.

Is that truly low? I am beginning to doubt her assessment of it. My research is showing it's not, and also that minor brown spotting is fine. I will take the extra care anyway because I am grateful for it. Someone also pointed out to me that she is likely just being cautious, and I find that comforting, but I notice I feel very confused right now. The confusion is not helping the anxiety!

Any guidance would be so appreciated. TIA!

ETA: called midwife back for clarification. She was comparing my numbers to the 12 week numbers they get on the Doppler in office… so 6 weeks ahead of where I am. 116 is fine.

Just as the title says, I’m sending myself absolutely spiraling over this which may seem crazy. My hcg was 55 at 10/11 dpo, 112 at late in the day 12/13 dpo, then 477 at 8am 15/16 dpo (30 hour doubling time)
So I know that’s reassuring but, I am seriously spiraling over not having sore breasts. With my 1 year old my breasts were already super sore at this point (though I was on progesterone suppositories for my own peace of mind due to PCOS so not sure if that played a part) and I think they were with my 4 year old too but, I truly can’t remember. I usually have pretty easy first trimesters especially when it comes to nausea but, for some reason this is making me lose my mind lol
Anyone else not have any sore breasts?

Currently my symptoms are an awful metallic taste in my mouth (on par with my usual first symptom haha), vivid dreams, night sweats, and frequent urination. very, very occasional mild cramping

Chat here with fellow bumpers about whatever is currently on your mind!

I was tracking ovulation with LH strips and BBT, so I’m pretty positive 3 days is too much of a variance to be due to later ovulation. Hoping the baby will catch up. Another scan scheduled in 10 days. Another wait starts… Anyone have had similar stories of being 2-3 days behind. I mostly see stories of much larger differences

I am currently pregnant and my sister is in her first round of IVF. I’ve already decided I will tell her over text to avoid any pressure for a certain reaction from her and to give her and her husband time to process the news. Now I’m planning out WHEN to tell her, and here are my options:

- Before her embryo transfer (when I’m 7/8 weeks along)

- After her embryo transfer (during the 2-week waiting period for her to find out if she’s pregnant)

- After the 2-week period when they find out if they’re pregnant

- At my 12 week mark (this lines up shortly after she would have found out if she’s pregnant or not).

Ideally, I’d wait until after my first trimester to share the news with her, but (God forbid) this could be freshly after finding out devastating news for them. This being said, I think I need to tell her sooner. I think telling her before her embryo transfer (when I’m 7-8 weeks along) might work best because it will give her and her husband at least 2 weeks of processing our news before they get confirmation on whether or not they’re pregnant.

Anyone here either have experience with IVF or with telling someone you’re pregnant when they’re going through IVF and have any advice on best timing?

Thanks so much in advance. ❤️

Hi all, we had an early ultrasound with our fertility clinic today at 6w2d was supposed to be 6w3d but dr wasn't worried about a day as its common with IUI. Heartrate was 107, is this normal? Ive been spiraling everything ive found though says 90-110 at early 6w is normal.