Patriarchy sucks
Patriarchy sucks.
The worst part is that it’s so deeply rooted in our lives that we often don’t even notice it. Ima tell you story. My cousin has been staying at our house for a few days. One day, my mom and I came home from work, and he had washed the dishes and done his own laundry. My mom immediately praised him for “doing so much around the house.” Ironically almost every single day when my mom comes home from work I cook, I clean, I do the chores. Basically, I f-in do almost everything around the house. Yet I’ve never been praised the way he was. Why? Because when a man does a little house work and does his OWN laundry it seems like helping. But when a woman does the exact same things even more than that, it’s just expected. It’s considered her responsibility. It made us believe that we’re supposed to be in the kitchen, supposed to clean, supposed to take care of everyone else. But I don’t. I belong where I want to be. My whole life I’ve tried to become the perfect daughter, the good friend, the good student, the “good girl.” But the older I get, the more I realize that being a “good girl” often just means making yourself smaller so everyone else can be comfortable. We’re constantly told how to be a good wife, a good mother, a good daughter. But no one asks if we’re happy. It’s always about serving others. I wasn’t born just to serve other people. I was born to live my own life and to be happy on my own terms. The more I learn, the more I realize about how real world works and how it sucks. So that is why I am choosing to be a loud, angry feminist from now on.