I don't want to include my future in laws in wedding planning
CONTEXT!!
she has been great from the start but the more we started to get to know each other i realized that i have to pump the breaks with certain things if not she just gets too invested and controlling.
Recently we took a girls trip with all the women in my fiancés family and one of the girls on the trip was my fiancés 20 year old brothers GF who lives with the family.. (long story )
So the trip was great halfway ! Then the girlfriend caught an attitude with my future MIL and i had to quickly do damage control before the trip went to shit. I corrected her and gave her guidance and i thought that would be it. I WAS WRONG this girl ended up catching an attitude with me the following days and i don't play that shit. So i snapped back respectfully and checked her. My future MIL got involved and starting CONSOLING the GF and this girl was over here crying and truly deserved an award for her acting skills. I ended up confronting both of them and made it clear that i wont allow that behavior and both of them being not emotionally mature ended up ignoring me for the rest of the trip and it took us weeeeeeeks to get back to speaking terms.
They handled it very poorly and truly chose the worse time to have conflict because originally that trip was supposed to be the trip i would get proposed to. We are getting married within the year of our engagement and i feel like that incident really made a dent in the family dynamic. I really don't feel i hold on to grudges but i do have boundaries and i don't let anyone cross them.
Fast forward now to wedding planning 3 months after the incident. my future MIL and the GF want to be involved in t all the novelties of wedding planning and i do not want their company at all.. keep in mind the GF and i are no where near close or even on comfortable speaking terms. so to me its like why would i reward people who treated me poorly to partake in any festivities when they couldn't act right when it counted why would i risk another "incident"
