u/Savings-Phase1110

I don’t think I’m ugly, but others (probably?) do

I’m 19, almost 20, and in my honest opinion, I think I look pretty average. Not a model, not someone who has “nothing” to improve upon and tweak; but genuinely not someone in need of a drastic, transformative “glow up.” When I was 14, yeah possibly, but not really anymore.

The problem is, it’s probable that most other people, especially in my age group, find me to be among the least attractive (I’d say bottom 10%). Usually, they subtly hint that I look like a “fat virgin” stereotype. Not just overweight, but that specific kind of fat + poor facial features/harmony + horrendous grooming/hygiene, which honestly I can’t see. Just today, my coworker said to me “I honestly that you played dungeons and dragons or MTG but didn’t want to sound mean,” after correctly guessing I played football. I find it highly unlikely that he thought I was someone like Henry Cavill or Myles Garrett, or a creative type person. I’ve also had people subtly assume I’m inexperienced dating wise (which I am, kind of, but not absolutely like a stereotypical “chud” is), or think I’m a big gamer (which I am, but not in the “15 hours a day alone” kind of way). On the flip side, I’ve had people assume I’m an athlete (like the dude I just mentioned) and a “frat guy” but I’m starting to realize they were probably joking.

I wouldn’t be surprised if I texted some people from my college, asked them if I “looked like a stereotypical virgin,” and they said “lowkey yeah” and told me straight up I’m just that ugly/unattractive. I wouldn’t ever do that of course, but if I did it wouldn’t surprise me.

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u/Savings-Phase1110 — 3 hours ago

It’s getting harder and harder to accept I’m not ugly

I think I genuinely might be one of those 3/10 guys (but with “pOteNtIaL” to be a 5-6). The things people say/assume about me just point to me having that stereotypical ugly discord mod/geek look. Not just a regular “cute nerd,” but the fucking neckbeard meme. Even though I’m not that fat, and I groom myself, my face is disgustingly unproportiinate so people assume I’m a socially inept virgin outcast. And while they’re not wrong, it wasn’t my choice. I just don’t want to accept I’m one of the people who was given a bad hand and is judged harshly due to looks. Those people are pathetic and hated by society. And I’m not like them right?

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u/Savings-Phase1110 — 5 hours ago