Surfing in a relationship advice forum.
This is a tale as old as surfing has existed. How do you navigate your relationship along with your passion for chasing waves ?
I have been in different relationships over my 20+ years surfing. I have had a range of feeling from partners: joy and support to apathy and concern about my obsession. I even dated someone who surfed which was almost more challenging (like when conditions got too critical.)
I have had partners love and “support” my love of the ocean at the beginning of a relationship. At some point they feel “left out” “not considered” or “bummed” when I choose a session over dinner, or meeting up with friends/family or events.
I am a US east coast surfer, conditions can change within hours and with a full schedule it is hard to get windows to chase swell and shred. Also it will most likely be knee high at best until late august .
I feel I spend a lot of quality time with my partner, however after bingeing on waves for a weekend it’s not enough. I feel like unless you get the bug you don’t get it?
So how do y’all find the balance to get your sessions and still have quality time ? This is an even bigger question for surfers with kids and marriage.
Thanks !