Cis male sterotype that rubs me the wrong way now that I pass.
Wasn't sure if this counted as a vent cause I'm not super upset by it, just a little frustrated, so it's going here just cause I tend to write things in a more emotional way.
But it frustrates me when someone who thinks I'm a Cis man assumes I'm stronger than them because I'm "biologically stronger" (not always said like that but, yk).
For some possibly unneeded context, I've been transitioning for over a decade now (socially since 2015 and medically since 2019) and I'd say roughly around 2024-25 after my top surgery I started passing to 95% of people.
I know I still got this comment from people who knew me pre-transiton, I'd just started transitioning and their way of validating me was wanting me to do more physical work because "you're a guy you can lift heavy things" ... I cannot.
Well, I started a new job that involves a lot more physical labor than I'm used too. I am a very weak person. I can push through the work and sweat for sure! But by no means am I breezing through my tasks (yet!)
There's one task that requires a lot of "elbow grease" and the person I was with (love them, they are very sweet this not a judgment on them at all, they don't know I'm trans) was talking about guys like me who usually have an easier time doing this task. Ive been thinking about it now, and looking back on other times I've been told similar things, and it's never really made me feel good? I think a part of it is because I'm pretty insecure about my strength and general physical stamina, I can lift maybe 30lbs? and be on my feet for about 2 hours before my feet start screaming at me. I've tried working out and exercising, but my brain finds it boring and it always feels like a waste of time, even if in reality, for that hour I'd spend working out I'd just replace it with doom scrolling yt shorts lmao.
Anyways, I'm kinda wondering if anyone else relates to this.