Don't know where to start
Hello all,
I feel like I was lucky to have a baby that falls asleep relatively on their own and just struggled through the rest of the nights...
5 month old adjusted (born 33 weeks).
Basically we put him down to sleep between 8-830 after bath, pj's, bottle, book, sleep sack and a song in the crib (black out curtains/ white noise, all that). For the most part I can get him to sleep by sometimes a hand on the chest and some shushing but occasionally I have to rock. But he is either awake in the crib or drowsy then puts himself to sleep (rocks his head as a self soothe). I have NOT been successful in this during middle of the night or early morning wakings. We do a dream feed around 12ish (unless he is up earlier, if so we give him a bottle then). He tends to wake up around 330 or 430. Until now, I would take him to bed with me until he has his bottle at 6 am, at which I pump and then he will sleep until 8-830 (he won't fall asleep until 630-7).
Please understand that I know this isn't sustainable and I am wanting to fix this.
The early morning wakes he will not be settled himself, even if I rock him to sleep he wakes up when transferred.
Daytime schedule (just now trying to get on a schedule, please do not judge...): 1.75/2/2/2.5.
He also has HORRIBLE naps. We attempt a crib nap with the first nap of the day and it lasts 25-35 minutes at most. Even when the wake window is stretched to 2 hours. Because of this I contact nap with him for the other two naps, usually 1.5 hour each (occasionally one will be an hour, adding up to approximately 3-3.5 hours of day sleep).
My question is- should I just feed to sleep at the 330-430 wakings? Should I fix my schedule to create more sleep pressure? My only worry is that because he's up for parts of the night I'm worried he isn't getting his recommended 10-10.5 hour night sleep.
I'm more concerned with night sleep as I know I have to get this down before tackling naps.
Wanting to attempt FIO from PLS book, but I want to make sure I'm going about it with the right schedule (and night feedings)
Thank you all in advance- I'm just a worried FTM that wants the best sleep for my child.