u/ScorpioIsle

For some context here: I’ve had issues with my boyfriends mom starting back in fall of last year because I texted her and asked if we can communicate with each other about his birthday surprises and plans so they don’t overlap. Instead of responding to me directly she called my boyfriend , spazzed on him, and told him that I have to go through her to plan things for his birthday because I’m not his wife. (This all happened back in Sept/Oct last year)

Now since that incident last Sept/Oct. My birthday has came and gone and she never said anything at all. Not a call, text or nothing. We visited her home for Thanksgiving I said hello and that’s about it. We came for Christmas and again I said hello and was cordial to everyone. I haven’t had a real conversation with this woman since she went ballistic about my making birthday plans (last year) for my boyfriend of now 6 years. Randomly she left me a voicemail 2 months ago asking me to deliver water bottles that my boyfriend bought her because she also has something to give to him. Now I was perplexed as to why she thought it was appropriate to contact me asking for favors when we don’t speak in any capacity and according to her I’m not his wife. I chose to still be nice and texted her to let her know that we can maybe meet when I’m not at the gym as I was in the middle of a workout. She then responds and says that she’s home and not going out so I can go to her. Like what the actual fuck? Anyways I never responded and told my boyfriend he needs to handle that.

Now let’s go to present day…. My boyfriend and I share a car because I work days and he’s nights so we don’t need two cars. The car was involved with an accident TWICE within a month span. Because of this and random other life expenses we were strapped financially. I told my boyfriend that we can dip into our savings but he said no he wanted to save it for life or death emergencies and would rather ask his mom as it shouldn’t be problem since he never asks her for favors or loans etc. (since the 6 years we have been together he has only ever asked her for a ride a hand full of times) she ended up giving him the money and the car was then in the shop to be fixed. Not even a full 48 hours after she gave it to him, she put him and myself and a group chat. She didn’t even say hello or anything. Just said “ since the car is fixed I need a payment plan setup because this money will gain interest. Get back to me end of day “ I thought this was absolutely insane. I understand completely why she would want her money back but that’s between her and her son. I never speak to her in any capacity and didn’t need her money. I also think it was very passive aggressive with “interest” comment. My boyfriend ended up going to her house and she just aired out all of the grievances she had with me that we both didn’t know about and I’m truly just left confused. Clearly it was about the money , it’s me? But wtf do I do at this point? I don’t even talk to her and she still has issues