r/Mildlynomil

These are literally old navy family sets that have a set for the mom too and she just sent a picture about how she couldn't resist getting pjs for my husband and the baby. MY baby that I'm currently carrying and going to have our first Christmas with as a family of 3 and I'm already supposed to be left out of something. This genuinely rubbed my partner and I the wrong way.

I blocked her phone number because we’re visiting my side of the family. MIL has a tendency to get jealous or insert herself in weird ways. Originally, she would call her son and if he doesn’t answer, she would call me “I was just making sure you guys were ok.” Or “can you have him call me? It’s important” and it would just be her venting or telling him something that literally isn’t important at all. SO, I blocked her because she triggers me. Now, she’s reposting my tiktok videos to her Facebook as a promotional stunt? I’m not sure how to feel about it. She’s posting my stuff while I’m not responding to her? At least she’s also reposting videos looking for a husband so that’s a plus!

Why do they do this? It’s so strange

I am now 6 mos pp with a beautiful baby boy! Unfortunately I am unable to be a full time SAHM due to our finances. My parents live 10 minutes away and my mom watches our baby on the 2.5 days I work during the week. In general we spend a lot of time with my family because again they live super close by, watch baby throughout the week, we attend church together and I’m just very close with my family! I’ve been having a difficult time with my in laws since even before I had baby. They have not visited for the past 3 months (the longest stretch since I’ve had baby) because my MIL sobbed to my DH about me staying home with baby instead of going to work after a long night of cluster feeding. Since then I have felt really gross and uncomfortable around MIL. It made me feel very uncomfortable and unwanted. Now the in laws are coming in next Thursday to visit for the weekend - they will stay with BIL who lives 15 mins away from us. (I’m sure DH will want them to stay with us for a night but that’s not happening.) we have not had anyone stay with us since having baby and it really overwhelms me not to have any privacy. I finally have a good schedule with baby and he is sleeping well. I asked my husband to “be my advocate and let us be a team” when his parents visit next weekend and he told me he can’t because “he has to advocate for his parents because I’m so disrespectful to them”. I asked him how I’m disrespectful? He informed me that not letting them hold our baby when he is fussy or crying is unfair to them. He says it’s also not fair that I don’t trust his parents to walk around while holding our baby… his parents are the age of my grandparents (80 yrs) and have had multiple recent frequent falls…. Am I crazy for having different boundaries for my parents versus my in laws who live 1000+ miles away and are also 20+ yrs older?