MIL overstep on decorating kids room
I’ve followed this sub for a long time, and I’m finally frustrated enough to post. Genuinely need some advice here.
My MIL is a good person, but she can be annoying and oversteps sometimes. We only see her a couple of times a year, but she has a tendency to try to steal firsts or pick out things I would have wanted to pick (like buying a first backpack or a first Christmas outfit). Typically I just ignore whatever she bought, go about my original plans, and remind myself that I only see her 2-3 times a year. My husband can sometimes be oblivious when it’s happening, but he backs me up when/if I need to draw a line.
Well, she’s visiting us at our new house this week, and yesterday I came home from work to see that she had taken down a poster in my 5 year old daughter’s newly-decorated room and replaced it with some sort of laminated stick-on custom wall art that she picked out with my daughter. I hate it and think it looks super-tacky. My husband was working from home when she did all this, and she did show it to him in advance, but obviously I wasn’t there. He doesn’t like it either but went along with it because my daughter picked it out too. He apologized after seeing how pissed I was. He was just kind of oblivious when it was happening and didn’t think it was a big deal. He still doesn’t think it’s a big deal, and he thinks I’m overreacting, but he also is fine to just take it down.
Anyway, normally I would just peel this bullshit off my walls and move on with my life, but my daughter likes it. WTF do I do now? It makes me feel petty and small to take down something my daughter likes. But I hate how it looks, and I feel like my prerogative was just trampled on for something I care about: setting up my daughter’s new bedroom. I only have one child. I only get to do this stuff once. It is not small, and it’s like the centerpiece of her room, over her bed. What would you do?