AITA for bringing my daughter’s friend home with us despite my daughter not wanting her friend here
I have 4 kids (3, 7, 9, and 16). My 16 year old is autistic level 1.
Yesterday her friend, Ellie (16), invited her over. Ellie does not bring her friends to her house because her family is difficult but her family had plans to be out that day, which is the only reason Ellie invited my daughter over.
My daughter called me at 9 telling me to come get her. She wouldn’t say what was going on, just that she needed to go home.
I get there and I am able to hear yelling and door slamming from the street. Ellie explains that her family got home early, her dad was drunk, and something made him upset. Her keys were in the kitchen so she couldn’t get to them to drive herself and my daughter back to my house.
I got my daughter in the car and asked Ellie to come with us so we could figure out somewhere for her to go. She asked us to wait a few minutes, went around towards the back of the house, and came back in maybe 5 minutes with a packed bag. While Ellie was in the house, my daughter was asking me to just go because she didn’t want to be around people. I tried to explain that that house was not safe for Ellie but that she would not have to interact with her if she didn’t want to.
At the house I got my daughter settled in her room, talked to Ellie about everything that happened, and we called a few other friends to see if anybody could pick her up. Nobody was able to let her stay the night so I set her up in my 3 year old’s room and had my 3 year old stay with me. Ellie left after breakfast saying things had calmed down at her house.
My daughter wouldn’t leave her room until Ellie left and is still upset with me for bringing Ellie here when she didn’t want people in her house. She’s also very emotional today and is only willing to eat 2 things and will only drink from one cup, so I know she’s really stressed out about this whole thing. Now I’m wondering if I’m wrong for bringing Ellie over when my daughter asked me not to.