i (f18) found sex tapes (+other porn) on my boyfriends (m18) phone
my boyfriend (m18) and i (f18) have been together for almost 2 years. at the very beginning of our relationship, we established some rules. the very first was no porn, which was his idea
we’re pretty transparent with using each others phones but i noticed that he gets nervous when i open his photos. this guy is super specific when he comes to his camera roll. he has less than 10,000 photos, and deletes every unnecessary photo, whether it’s someone he doesn’t talk to anymore, or a useless screenshot.
last week, we had a sleepover and got into a disagreement right before bed. i went to his couch to sleep, then he came to the room and wouldn’t leave until we traded spots so that i was in the bed instead.
i saw that he left his phone beside his bed. and then i went into his hidden photos, where i know he keeps some of my pictures too. i scrolled up to the top, where the oldest photos are, and saw many videos from the internet. then i noticed some girls i also recognized.
some were selfies they took, tiktok’s they posted, but it always had cleavage. some of them were just straight up cropped pics of their cleavage. i saw a couple of sex tapes and nudes from his exes too.
these photos were clearly taken and saved from before we started dating. other than being a little more insecure and jealous, i can excuse the porn.
the morninf after i talked to him about it. he said it was just his past and that he is embarrassed of it, and that he doesn’t look at them at all. thats it.
my biggest problem are the videos/images of the girls he personally knew. why would he keep those while being so organized with his other photos.
i know that general porn from the internet is a big struggle for all people. it’s easy to access, and has so much variety.
saying this, i think id appreciate input from both genders in other relationships here. i don’t know how to feel about the personals, knowing that there’s videos of people that he has slept with on his phone. do other boyfriends also do this? why?? to reminisce? or purely for entertainment.
other than input, i truly don’t know what i am asking when i post this. i would just appreciate anything that comes to mind when reading this. i’m not asking about how i should feel, i think i just want to know if my reaction is rational or not.