Can someone help me understand this rule? (15f)
Before I start, I just want to say that I’m not trying to upset anyone with this post, I just need help understanding.
Basically, my friend group has had a lot of sleepovers for the past year or so, and I’ve never been allowed to join because I am dating one of them. But I don’t understand why. I’ve been so open and honest about everything with my parents to the point I’m oversharing. I literally asked them for permission to kiss my boyfriend for the first time. I’m definitely not trying to do anything inappropriate, and neither is he. And besides, we aren’t going to be alone. Two other friends will be there. Maybe even my brother.
My parents say that they trust me, but that I’m also a hormonal teenager, and they know what that’s like. But I’m not them, so why do they get to decide that I can’t control myself? I’m not oblivious to the consequences.
All I’m asking for is a reason I can understand. I have PDA, so I hyper fixate on the purpose of rules. To me, a good rule would protect me or someone else from something that is actually likely to happen. But the only reason they can give me is that no other parent would allow this. And even if that is true, that still doesn’t help me understand why. Aside from that, they said that the other parents involved should know that me and my boyfriend are dating. But my boyfriend has asked to keep that a secret for now because his parents are very judgmental and he doesn’t want them to start making comments about me, so I want to respect that. And either way, if they know or not doesn’t really change anything. Nothing bad will happen regardless.
I’m sorry if this all sounds dumb and spoiled of me. I love my parents, and I know they’re really just trying to do what’s best for me. I just can’t understand why they are saying no, and it’s making me constantly stressed and frustrated. I don’t think it’s fair that my parents get to just decide whatever they want even if they don’t have an understandable reason.
So can someone give me advice? Is there anything I can say or do that might convince them? Or can someone try to help me understand why I can’t?