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I’m a teenager and I recently lost my mom to cancer. During the wake, I mostly just wanted to sit quietly and grieve.

Whenever visitors came, my grandmother would tell me to serve them food and drinks. I understand that this is a way to show respect and appreciation to people who took the time to attend. However, I really didn’t feel emotionally capable of doing that at the given moment.

(it happened a lot but this one specific time)One time, when guests arrived, my grandmother again told me to serve them. I told her I didn’t want to and didn’t do it, just laid my head back on the table and brushed her off. She seemed upset, and I felt guilty afterward because she’s older and I just brushed her off and made her do it.(which I still feel bad about)

At the same time, I felt like it was unfair to expect me to take on that role when I was grieving and not in the right state of mind to be serving others. AITA?

EDIT: To clarify for those who asked, I’m from the Philippines, and our culture doesn’t strictly require the family to serve guests, but it is sometimes done because hospitality is a strong value here. I think in my case, it was more specific to my grandmother rather than something that’s always expected everywhere. The food was already prepared and was mainly funded by my mother’s side of the family. My moms sister would often bring or buy food for us. And it made me feel worse that my grandmother was the one doing it since to be fair, she just lost her daughter as well, not to mention outliving her too. That’s also why I felt worse about it as I thought it through and started feeling more of an asshole as I let my actions sink in. To those wondering if there were other family members, yes, there were. Everyone from my mother’s side was there as well and stayed overnight throughout the entire wake. I don’t fully remember what everyone was doing.

Also, the grandmother I’m referring to is my maternal grandmother(mother of my mom). So please don’t call her heartless or say anything bad about her, she isn’t. :')